So, here's all the info.
Now. Info. I am black. Have albinism. So skin has no color at all. Hair is blonde and thick. Eyes are green. Pix in my gallery, if you wanna see for yourself. My friend, distant now because I haven't spoken to her since Feb., is white. We met in HS, around my Junior year. She was a Sophomore At first, we just chatted in class, and on the bus ride home. She had tons of other friends, so I wasn't that close to her at 1st.
Summer came, at which I didn't see her the entire summer. Didn't have her phone number, or house address. Met up again when school started, and we got a bit closer-texting, and her inviting me to her house now and again. I was the only black friend she had, given the gathering at her birthday.
She outright told me her family was racist--she swears she's not. She always says she's not. I get that "Brian" vibe from Family Guy lol. Now, she then told me after a bit her family doesn't mind me, as I don't look black, and they can tolerate my parents.
She has found some black guys cute, but told me she'd never date anyone who's black. Whenever she comes to my house, even just to pick me up, she always brings up how she's scared about being around here because it's alot of black people, and she's white--thinking this a hood and she'll be shot in her car I guess.
She came to pick me up one night just to go out, but sent me a text on her way, telling me to meet her outside because she doesn't wanna be out there alone waiting. This was the last night I spoke to her since Feb.
But she has no reason to think that, other than because black people live here. Nothing goes on. people can be obnoxious/loud, but no shootings regulalry happen here. And it's only alot of people on holidays really--like this Past 4th. We have foster kids around here who are white. They live with black kids, play outside with black kids. Nobody cares. We have white people that come visit at our church.
Now 1 shooting did happen at a job. But as long as I lived here, that was the 1st and only time anything like that happened. I moved to this neighborhood when I was 8, and I am 23 now. She knows about that shooting, and always brings it up in defense. But it was 1 incident. She's got nothing else. But she'll use that for defense that the black people around are dangerous. And the guys that did the shooting didn't even live here. lol I told her that, but she still doesn't buy it. I always tell her it's fine here, she never buys it. And her mother, texting her because she's worried about her being around here.
Also, she lives next to a prison. Her house is way out in the country, and she says some break-outs have happened. But she doesn't seem to be worried being around a prison and convicts, but making a visit to where I live has her on edge.
My father was driving us to a HS game 1one time. 1st, he wanted to stop by his mother's, my grandmother's, house. He parked, and we just waited in the car. But she brings up, "I wonder how they feel about me in this neighborhood?"
Once again, as if it's a hood. I tell her a white family lives right next door. We go to school with the boy that lived there. But she states they probably don't act too white. That's what she was getting at, but didn't wanna say. I completely the sentence for her, and she nodded in agreement. So she didn't say it. I said it for her, and she had no trouble agreeing. But she hesitated in saying it herself.
And with tv shows. She has seen Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, and finds it funny. but she also states that sans Will, all the characters act like white people. I wonder why? Is their a certain way to "act white?" All I saw was black people who weren't ghetto stereotyped.
So, does she sound racist? Or am I in the wrong here?
Her comments and attitude do tend to rub me the wrong way. I try giving the benefit of the doubt, mainly as I don't have many friends--she's the only one actually. But after a while, I just decided i'd rather be by myself than in her company. She has called my house to get me, but I haven't answered. She's called twice. But twice in 6 months doesn't seem like much. lol She hasn't come by either.
This post has been edited by VanillaChocolate: Thu Jul 17, 2014 07:52 PM