Survive sexless marriage Looking for help or sarrogates
Posted Fri Aug 15, 2014 08:00 PM
Posted Fri Aug 15, 2014 08:41 PM
Posted Fri Aug 15, 2014 09:37 PM
Just me and her. We know the situation well. Discretion is the only other option I know of. Thanks for caring.
Posted Sat Aug 16, 2014 07:10 AM
Was she the same before you married ??? If YES - then you knew the situation - so mayhap marriage wasn't the best idea.
Or has her interest "waned" ??? If its "waned" - is there / are there any reasons - there could be a MULTITUDE/MINEFIELD here.
As I'm in NO position to advise nor make judgements -
I can only say that not being allowed any - will possibly lead to a deterioration in the relationship -
With respect - I think you NEED to talk to her about all points raised. x
Posted Sat Aug 16, 2014 07:25 AM
I'm on testosterone for some medical reasons of my own, which compounds the problem. Her doctor, back in February gave her estrogen
Cream to apply to her vagina to help with natural lubrication. She used it for two months and quit. I'm not throwing away twelve years
Because she won't have sex, I can jack off for that(which I do a lot), but not being able to share fantasies and likes about sex is why I'm here...I'm lonely
Posted Sat Aug 16, 2014 07:59 AM
Minx. Thanks for caring. She was sexual early but more out of curiosity than real attraction. It quickly became first year about just pleasing me. We've been married 20+ yrs? we have talked about and understand the situation. But we didn't marry for only the sex, she is my best friend.
But yes, without sexual attraction, mutual pleasure....it's a constant strained relationship.
Posted Sat Aug 16, 2014 08:36 AM
Posted Sat Aug 16, 2014 08:41 AM
marriage can be one of the lonliest places in the world. I'm missing my married lover an he's missing me - but can't get away...
Posted Sat Aug 16, 2014 10:16 AM
Profil should say mid 40's. Sorry.
Posted Sat Aug 16, 2014 10:47 AM
I really don't understand a person who never wants sex with their spouse, but then gets bent out of shape if their spouse seeks sex elsewhere.
Posted Sat Aug 16, 2014 11:02 AM
you said you love her and she's your best friend and you are married, if this is really true IMO you would never cheat on her or lie to her,people who really love each other don't run around hurting them,
so only options you have IMO are get a divorce, get her permission to run around from your wife,or just stay with her for better or worse.
Posted Sat Aug 16, 2014 11:35 AM
The Lady above will always give you THE HONEST response.
I agree with Maine's final paragraph.....then they'd be no need for any deceit - as long as discretion was upheld.
Posted Sat Aug 16, 2014 03:57 PM
Posted Sat Aug 16, 2014 04:18 PM
you can't abandon her - BUT - you have NEEDS - I'd respectfully suggest finding a mistress who will understand the need for discretion and that you won't be leaving your wife.
I have to admit that I am mistress to a man who says he isn't getting ANY at home - whether that's true - I don't know.
Posted Sat Aug 16, 2014 10:53 PM
#2 is not cheating, cheating is a act of deceiving someone,if you tell her and she says ok then you are not deceiving her,
I guess I'm just against cheating for any reason, and if you think she is a burden and you are trying to decide what way you are going to choice to hurt her,sorry but that's not love in my book,so just go out and have fun and don't worry about her anymore
don't mean to sound rude or uncaring but you ask for opinions and that's mine
This post has been edited by SexyFantasyGirl: Sat Aug 16, 2014 10:55 PM
Posted Sun Aug 17, 2014 05:49 AM
This post has been edited by topper: Sun Aug 17, 2014 05:59 AM
Posted Sun Aug 17, 2014 09:08 AM
I think this is up to your own heart v NEEDS.
Frankly its as important to me as is food - however sluttish that reads - It's how I feel.
Posted Sun Aug 17, 2014 01:55 PM
Newt Gingrich left his wife on her death bed. It's not uncommon.
if you wife thinks like you do I hope you never get sick,don't think you can compare a car to love, if you can I don't think you know what love means, believe it or not but some people love one another to stay with then no matter what,It's fine you don't think that way but not everyone thinks that sex is the only think worth while in a relationship.
Posted Mon Aug 18, 2014 07:57 AM
It seems to me finding an understanding sarrogate whether openly or discreetly is better than leaving. Actually I was hoping some on this forum would like to volunteer. Lol
This post has been edited by Friend4uneed40: Mon Aug 18, 2014 07:58 AM
Posted Mon Aug 18, 2014 12:55 PM
I have NO idea why his wife dos'nt want any (if he's being truthful) he's TOO GOOD AT EVERYTHING