"Women are not attracted to men"
Posted Sun Nov 16, 2008 07:50 AM
Women are not actually attracted to men. There is a vague idea of what a man is physically, and some are better than others aesthetically speaking, but the purely physical appearance of a man is almost inconsequential unless he is horribly ugly or outrageously attractive.
Women are attracted to status, money, how much a man smiles and laughs, how many friends and resources a man has, how full a man's life is--how many "cool," "exciting" and prestigious things he is doing or connected to.
They are interested in how other people view him--how many people want to be around him, how other people interact with him and whether their interactions convey that he is special and amazing. They want him to be extremely outgoing and aggressive, they want him to demonstrate his status over other people by dominating them in various non-violent ways.
A woman's attraction to a man is a function of her jealousy at the thought of another woman having that man. She doesn't care who he actually is or EXACTLY what he looks like physically, she only cares about the VALUE of the life he has constructed around himself.
A woman basically is a greedy materialistic prostitute. Although that sounds vulgar, it's true. She trades her physical self to buy into the success a man has created for himself.
As a man, I fall in love with how a woman is physically. I fall in love with simple parts of a woman. Like the way her hair falls around her face, the line of her neck, her shoulders. They way her ears might peek from her hair. Her eyelashes. The size and shape of her hands, her fingernails. The way she walks, the way she looks when she is tired or annoyed, the sound she makes when she sneezes, coughs, or cries. The way she sits in a chair. The way she breathes while experiencing different emotions. The way her lips move. A million little things.
Sure, a huge part of my attraction is mental, but the powerful seed of love that builds within me and crystallizes is based greatly on visual things that set off torrents of emotion and need.
It seems to me that women almost cannot think for themselves. Their estimates of worth are based on other peoples' estimates of worth. They don't really find an object beautiful on their own. The object becomes beautiful when other people let her know that it is beautiful.
I'm completely unable to reconcile the differences between men and women. It seems like success with women is equal to spending half of your life working to create a giant illusion, something vastly tiring and annoying, while sacrificing your own true self and your own interests. We construct our lives around nest-building. We're like male birds building nests and showing them off to attract mates. It's pathetic. Everything we do is to get women. It is a fucking shit deal.
Someone needs to invent a drug which has no hormonal imbalance side-effects but is able to erase a man's sex drive and attraction to women. It would increase productivity rates to incredible heights. I'd be free and happy. I'd feel complete. I'd be able to concentrate on my biochemistry studying.
And I would like to know what the guys and girls think
Posted Sun Nov 16, 2008 08:38 AM
I disagree with most of this lousy text. I can be attracted to a man physically, or at least that's what my body tells me. I can be attracted before I know his status, his bank account or his achievements. Brains, humour and taste come later. I agree with that text on to the point that I can't do it with someone just because he has perfect abs. Not because I think of his financial status, but because I believe he's in desperate need for a shower.
Brains is a plus, though. I can't feel attracted to a georgeous god with blank, empty, bovine eyes and no idea whatsoever about what happens in the world around him.
Most guys that accuse women of being attracted to whoever but them, are either of the unwashed, sloppy, rude, lazy, useless variety or they don't hang out with enough women that keep someone company for free.
PS. The stupid, busty, silent blonde and the outrageously young and hot trophy wife of the old, rich, ugly tycoon are male fantasies. Women have just learned to adapt to that to survive. Just have a look around you and count how many worthy females downplay their brains, their success, their abilities outside of bed, just to land an "acceptable" man. Unfortunately, I see too many of them.
Posted Sun Nov 16, 2008 01:54 PM
I'm attracted to a mans mind more than anything. I've fallen for people others have found unattractive just because he could stimulate my mind and he was smart. But I also like to be physically attracted to my partners and yes most of the time before I even think about dating a guy I want to be attracted to him first.
The guy who wrote this is just pissed off at women and doens't knwo what the hell he's talking about.
Posted Sun Nov 16, 2008 04:36 PM
LOL. I think this whole thing was late-night homework avoidance. Don't pay it any mind.
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Post note : I'm stepping outa my Q character just long enough to voice my personal opinion "This seems to be the worst case of Sour Grapes I've seen since Ivan was here"
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