What do you do when you do not have a regular sex life? Things change
Posted Thu Sep 11, 2014 07:30 AM
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Posted Thu Sep 11, 2014 08:53 AM
I think first it depends on what the problem preventing " a regular sex life " is.
Maybe one partner has to travel a lot - so I guess you manage as best you can - like coming here - masturbation.... ( My Lover is away for ten days an already am masturbating )
If its ill physical health - I guess the same.
If its something like depression - then I'd suggest GP intervention.
However - in conclusion - I think the person "suffering" will either continue as above - or maybe find a partner for "regular sex" - it all depends on the actual situation/circumstances.
Your question is HUGE in that there obviously are so MANY different reasons WHY x
Posted Thu Sep 11, 2014 01:02 PM
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Posted Fri Sep 19, 2014 05:22 AM
It's easier that way then to keep asking if and/or when she wants to do it.
I let her come to me when she wants it instead.
Posted Fri Sep 19, 2014 02:14 PM
This for me. What else is left. Not getting sex? Either the SO isn't in the mood, or you don't have one, watch some porn, and go solo. Surely it's not as great as sex with another person, but if you are in the mood, ya gotta do something, or brush it off.
Posted Fri Sep 19, 2014 05:04 PM
Posted Fri Sep 19, 2014 10:34 PM
But if one of you can not have normal PIV sex:
Masturbation. You can do it yourself, like here looking at pictures, camming with guys or gals, watching porn movies.
You can use your hand, or add toys as needed. If PIV is out but anal is ok, then a dildo while masturbating, anal beeds, butt plug.
If the two of you are up for non PIV sex, my fav is in the shower. If the guy has ED, the warm shower water and the fact that he is standing up (and the blood is pulled to his cock by gravity) tend to help him to get at least a partial erection. And if thre is a lot of vaginal dryness, the water from the shower helps let his fingers smoothly play with your pussy lips and clit. i have found that summers eve cleansing wash helps to lubricate the Vag lips so you can rub them pretty roughly if orgasm is an issue
If the woman can not have piv sex, then masturbation of the guy while various anal stimulating toys are inserted can be fun.
Light bondage is always nice. Just a pair of handcuffs and away you go.
FOr the woman, nipple play can lead to a full orgasm in many women. It takes a long time, the guy needs to use his hands/fingers on one breast, and his mouth/tongue onthe other breast. Start slow, and build up to an orgasm. It will take maybe 15 minutes to do the deed so do not let him give up too soon. The obvious benefit, no Vag touching at all is needed.
then there are plenty of sexually gratifing things that do not directly involve orgasm. Japenese rope bondage, for instance, seems pretty hot. And if you could not have an orgasm for a medical reason, it seems like denying yorself in such an obvious way as sexual rope bondage would enhance the experience, even make it a little pleasureable?
the BDSM, humiliation, cuckolding,.....there is a long list of sex/humiliation/role play/voyerism where one partner can simply not have physical sex, but still gets a thrill from the method.
This post has been edited by spud14: Fri Sep 19, 2014 10:35 PM
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