Is it possible to have sex with someone you don't like ? Is SEX only a BASIC need?
Posted Wed Oct 08, 2014 12:41 PM
Posted Wed Oct 08, 2014 02:14 PM
Posted Wed Oct 08, 2014 02:21 PM
I personally, will not. I have to know a guy, be attracted to his character, and feel he's a good guy, who would be a thoughtful and giving partner. Now, I may need to be careful of players. But, since I require emotional connection, I think it would take a few months of talking and spending time together, before sex. I want love, and emotion. So, if the guy is a player, chances are, he's going to get tired of me and leave before the hump-and-dump, if he has no feelings.
I realize though, that waiting a few months before sex isn't a popular thought among many. But, it's just how I feel. Need the emotional connection first. Unlike many people who say if they don't have sex by date 4, it's a wrap. For me, that seems to fast. But, not something I need to worry about now anyhow.
This post has been edited by VanillaChocolate: Wed Oct 08, 2014 02:24 PM
Posted Wed Oct 08, 2014 02:25 PM
Long answer short. I could not have sex with someone I disliked.
Posted Wed Oct 08, 2014 02:32 PM
Posted Wed Oct 08, 2014 02:38 PM
MINX, I think Seinfeld summarizes my feelings much better than my earlier post did.
Posted Wed Oct 08, 2014 02:46 PM
But I would agree with the urge part. I've hooked up with a lot of girls I either didn't know (and didn't care to know) and even some that I thought were stupid beyond belief, irritating, and ultimately horrible people.....but they were really hot.
So, if I'm being honest, I'd have to say that my willingness to engage in physical stuff with chicks has zero to do with their personality. Personality only came into play if being exclusive/committed were part of the question.
Posted Wed Oct 08, 2014 03:08 PM
To be completely honest.
I feel that my experiences with this subject maybe more on the "urges" side. With that said I've had sex with an ex that i didn't completely despise with every fiber of my being but I didn't really like him as a person either he was just a means to an end, he knew how to fuck me and he wasn't in the dark about the whole deal it was just a fuck I more or less tolerated him in my house for the length of time it took for me & him to get off a few times.
Posted Wed Oct 08, 2014 03:12 PM
Prostitutes ? surely there has to be an iota of fancying whats on offer - or does that deteriorate against maybe whats been drunk ?
Posted Wed Oct 08, 2014 05:39 PM
Posted Wed Oct 08, 2014 06:37 PM
Posted Wed Oct 08, 2014 06:48 PM
Posted Wed Oct 08, 2014 10:12 PM
Posted Wed Oct 08, 2014 11:10 PM
Because they're super-wonder-mega-ultra hot?
If I was a single cat and Megan Fox came up to me and said "Ily, I wanna butter your carrot.", I honestly couldn't give a rat's anal cavity if she was a likable individual or not. Sometimes effin' hot is good enough...(I'm talking purely one-night-stand stuff...*not* a relationship)
Would you say that if there wouldn't be a scenario where you bang a guy who was incredibly hot but maybe you didn't like him as a person? Or is personality and willingness to have sex with absolutely, irrefutably, intertwined? I mean, I've hooked up with chicks who absolutely hated me...and I mean hated me. It wasn't "sexual tension". I mean they really didn't like me as a human being. But they'd come around and be all "hey what are you doing tonight?"
Have you never experienced something like that with a guy? Or am I just special? :/
Posted Thu Oct 09, 2014 08:51 PM
Posted Thu Oct 09, 2014 09:33 PM
Then again, I might run into the she's-stupid-mean-and-annoying-but-damn-she's-HOT-and-she-wants-me-right-now dilemma. If so, I might consider that she's only stupid, mean and annoying because she's a victim of some social/economic/cultural/psychological/historical reason, or something...
Posted Fri Oct 10, 2014 06:22 PM