The Scary Ways Online Dating Can Go Wrong
Posted Tue Oct 21, 2014 10:40 PM
A woman was arrested in Thousand Oaks over the weekend after firefighters rescued her from a man's chimney. She had been trying to break into the house and had gotten stuck, police said. The homeowner told Los Angeles station KABC he had met the woman, Genoveva Nunez-Figueroa, online and they had gone out on a few dates, but recently ended the relationship.
Sunday was the second time the woman was found on his roof, he told the station.
Unfortunately, online dating can lead to scary situations and it doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman, relationship expert Rachel DeAlto said.
"Guys think they're so much safer and that they don't have to worry about security issues," she said. "But obviously, a woman in a chimney proves that wrong."
"You need to protect yourself and you don't know who's on the other side of the computer until you meet them in person. Have a couple of dates with them before you bring them into your bubble. Be very protective of where you live," DeAlto added.
She suggests people have a separate email address to use for online dating.
"Most of our emails have our full names attached to them and there is a lot of information people can get from that," she said. "Unfortunately in this day and age, it is very easy to find people."
And be wary of red flags -- like an online dating profile written in all caps, for example.
"It sounds so bad, but it's true," DeAlto said. "When you have a creepy person talking in all caps and not making sense in a sentence, then you might want to question who you're talking to. Don't just look at the photo."
Nunez-Figueroa was arrested for illegal entry and providing false information to a police officer, and later released. ABC News was not able to reach her for comment. The Ventura County Sheriff's Office does not know if she has an attorney. She is due back in court Dec. 16.
By RHEANA MURRAY
via Good Morning America
Posted Wed Oct 22, 2014 03:13 AM
Not that I'm still looking, but if someone says they're a Leo, yet they behave like a Sagittarius I'd have to dig deeper. If they still didn't add up I'd treat them with a degree of suspicion.
This post has been edited by White.Rabbit: Wed Oct 22, 2014 03:19 AM
Posted Wed Oct 22, 2014 09:24 PM
Posted Wed Oct 22, 2014 09:25 PM
Posted Thu Oct 23, 2014 04:06 AM
Seriously folks learn to trust your instincts over who's genuine and who isn't. Doing so got me a new man, who I'll marry when I can.
This post has been edited by White.Rabbit: Thu Oct 23, 2014 04:07 AM
Posted Thu Oct 23, 2014 06:59 AM
Posted Thu Oct 23, 2014 02:13 PM
I feel ok here with the verification processes. I didn't feel 100% without a pic.
Posted Fri Oct 24, 2014 09:21 AM
All these articles stating online dating is dangerous can be interpreted the same way to real life. Some people just like to jump on a certain bandwagon.
Posted Fri Oct 24, 2014 08:12 PM
Posted Sun Oct 26, 2014 06:42 AM
Posted Sun Oct 26, 2014 07:24 AM
Posted Sun Oct 26, 2014 08:26 AM
Action Fraud said:
They ask you lots of questions about yourself but don’t tell you much about themselves.
They quickly start calling you by a pet name or use endearing terms such as ‘darling’.
They want to communicate with you through instant messaging and, texts, rather than through the dating website or chat room where you met.
They don’t answer basic questions about where they live and work.
They start asking you to send them money.
On a personal note it took seven months conversation before I was asked a pivotal question.
This post has been edited by White.Rabbit: Sun Oct 26, 2014 08:56 AM