Dating a woman with a child
Posted Tue Nov 25, 2008 09:38 PM
But, I have met someone with a kid who really interests me. Well, met again, we went to high school together but never really talked or hung out then. So I have been trying to figure out wether or not to break my own rule and give this a shot. Her kid is about 17 months old and is a normal healthy little kid.
So, what kind of experiences have you guys had, good or bad? I'm on the fence and am just looking for some ideas that maybe haven't crossed my mind to sway me one way or the other.
Posted Tue Nov 25, 2008 09:49 PM
I wish you the best of luck. Let us know how things go.
Posted Tue Nov 25, 2008 10:36 PM
I'm here to tell ya any chump can cause a kid , but it takes a Man to raise one , the Ladies prefer Men BTW . So what if your not the sperm donor , you can still be every bit as much a parent as anyone else & maybe even have a more rewarding experience for having chosen this path . Bringing em into this world is as easy as not wearing a rubber (anyone with an IQ below 40 can prove this) , the incredibly , next to impossible part is teaching them to survive in it !
I'm not busting your nuts here (a character flaw of mine , I sound alot harsher than intended sometimes), just telling you that there is more than one way to see what your looking at . A kid is a kid , yours , mine , theirs , no diffrence . They'll all cause the exact same sleepless nights & grey hair . Looking at any child & see'ing a mistake might be a clue that you might wanna look deep-n-hard-n-long B4 having any .
Best-o-Luck from Q 2 U >:]
Posted Tue Dec 02, 2008 11:53 PM
Posted Wed Dec 03, 2008 09:37 AM
My only problem with it is the attachment that develops between me and the child.
If the relationship doesn't last then most likely I don't get to see the child anymore and that hurts me as well as them.
I wouldn't do it again.
Posted Wed Dec 03, 2008 09:44 AM
I agree that becoming involved with a woman with children can be a bit dicey, if only because you eventually might become with her kids as well. So you have attachments that extend beyond the woman. All that means is that you need to be sensitive to the fact that you're incorporating more people (and yes, kids are definitely people) in your life.
What I think you need to examine is whether this is to be a casual fling or something longer term. I personally would avoid a casual fling if a woman had kids simply to minimize the entanglements that might arise. On the other hand, there's no reason not to seriously a woman with children if you find her more than passingly interesting.
My 2 cents....