This is why I am here...any strategies for breaking L-T routine?
Posted Tue Dec 02, 2008 12:30 PM
Has anyone attracted their mate into something they wouldn't ordinarily do by getting them on SF?
I know the answer here is communication and its not that we don't communicate its that after letting what I get off on just go and slink away over the course of time and it has made it quite uncomfortable to have this conversation; I guess I am looking to "test run" the conversation all right here before embarking on it in reality. Suggestions where to start?
I am sure this is more common than most of us imagine and I have seen some great advice here so please HELP! This is why I am here.
Posted Wed Dec 03, 2008 03:09 AM
First one is it sounds like she doesn't know what you want. She might reject some of them, but at least she has to know about them in the first place.
What makes me think that? When she says you can do whatever you want and then she's surprised what it turns out to be. Yall need to talk about these things sometime when you are not in bed having sex right then. Make a list maybe. Expect to have to negotiate.
The other thing is yes--by the time you're in your forties or whatever, it might be asking a lot to take the risk of getting caught and publicly embarrassed. People have more to lose by then.
I know couples that age that take risks with public sex all the time. They're very excited about it. But they judged that their jobs and family situation and social standing wouldn't be threatened if they got caught. It's a lot more likely that your wife doesn't feel that way, and if you sat down and thought about it you'd probably decide you would have more to lose than you did 20 years ago too.
Posted Wed Dec 03, 2008 04:14 AM
I have even gone to the trouble of getting a friend to take some modest pics so I could show myself off in the gallery (I'm just building up the courage now to post my 'Xmas photo's'...)
My god...! What have I become...!
I'm also getting myself into conversations about sex with the blokes at work - where as before, I'd ignore them and ultimately miss out on some really funny and interesting stories...
Posted Wed Dec 03, 2008 12:00 PM
That is just true.
Your advise about the perils of "Risk" was good too but I have come to realize that the ugly truth is the need for risk, speed & challenge has probably been nutured for a lifetime and is now just etched into some of us more than others - I can not hide my need for it. Further, you are correct as far as her thoughts with risk representing a threat go; it is as much not a part of her make up as much as it is a part of mine. I know, I know, use other outlets but as far as sex goes I feel I am losing out if it doesn't - sometimes - contain risk. I travel extensively and can easily fine other outlets but I don't want to end up that way.
Also, thank you JAZ70"...you should get her on to this forum" I have been seeding her a little here and there with no bites so far. Maybe I should just ask her to take a survey or something. Did you get your SO on it too? How?
Posting pics sounds interesting:
-but rings of asking for proposition(s)
-though I must say both of yours were VERY tastefull and you both look fabulous.
-If anyone on this site posts another solo boner picture I'm gunna get sick
-couples pictures are nice but she wouldn't approve of a pic of us
-what has your experience been with pics?
Posted Tue Dec 09, 2008 05:45 AM
I have been sent some interesting PM's, but it's all good fun..
You don't need to post pic's, just make sure, when you look at other peoples, that you leave obscenely flattering comments - It tends to breed more pic's...
I'd still work on getting the wife involved, somehow - Life IS to short...
Posted Tue Dec 09, 2008 10:30 PM
Posted Fri Dec 12, 2008 06:57 AM
Nice Try, but Wrong Thread...!
Posted Wed Jan 14, 2009 02:49 PM
Posted Fri Jan 16, 2009 01:08 AM
Also, I hope if you manage to entice her back into the "world of the sexually alive", that you will (please!) share with me your successful strategy.
Best of luck to you.