Who here has a sexless marriage, and how do you deal with it?
Posted Fri Feb 20, 2015 02:53 PM
How do the rest of you deal with this?
Posted Fri Feb 20, 2015 05:17 PM
Having personally jumped ships and gone through more than my fair share of trauma in the process, I'm convinced the sexual chemistry I may once have had with my ex wasn't exactly what it should've been in the first place.
Posted Fri Feb 20, 2015 06:25 PM
Posted Fri Feb 20, 2015 09:04 PM
Posted Fri Feb 20, 2015 09:16 PM
Posted Fri Feb 20, 2015 10:28 PM
Posted Sat Feb 21, 2015 02:29 AM
Posted Wed Feb 25, 2015 10:09 AM
The way that I cope now is to write erotica. I started writing in an effort to jump-start my wife's sex drive, but I figured out that if she doesn't have it, nothing is going to give it to her. That avenue was a bust, but I did discover that I got somewhat of a mental release from writing, so I continued. Later still, I sent a few snippets to some users here and found that they enjoyed my writing as much as I did, so that made it even more enjoyable for me. Now, I write an ongoing story in my blog and I also write custom encounters for anyone with a request. Those are my favorites because I know someone is most likely getting off on what I've written and it's more personal.
I don't know how writing would affect you, but it's helped a great deal for me and it takes the edge off. I doesn't have to be good (as is evidenced by some of my earlier stuff), and no one really has to read it (although it's better if you know someone is). Don't concern yourself with entertaining others, just get the words out of your head and it may help.
Posted Wed Feb 25, 2015 04:26 PM
Posted Thu Feb 26, 2015 09:10 AM
Posted Thu Feb 26, 2015 09:48 AM
This is truer than you know. I'm already on ADD and Anti-Depressants, and there have been many weeks I went to bed crying because of constantly being told no.
Now I just get passive aggressive, but the crying does come back from time to time.
Posted Thu Feb 26, 2015 09:53 AM
Posted Thu Feb 26, 2015 10:21 AM
Posted Thu Feb 26, 2015 11:30 AM
I regret I wrote from rememberence of sexual starvation and the affects. Better to have NOTHING than 3 seconds and left hanging at 100,000 feet an NO DESIRE TO GIVE RELIEF ( an that once a month - if granted ) but the worse is when they ask "are you ok" ?????????? HELL NO
masterbating till your head bangs -
being told - YOUR' the ONE with the problem ( YES - sex starved) being told "there's more important things" - "why are you wearing that".... an this when you was upfront and said from DAY ONE I LOVE GOOD SEX.........
My body went into "hibernation" for its own protection....amazing how it ignights
No - my friend - its NOT US... we are but natural for wanting raw honest sex.
This post has been edited by THE MINX: Thu Feb 26, 2015 11:33 AM
Posted Fri Feb 27, 2015 02:24 PM
Posted Sat Feb 28, 2015 11:39 AM
If you've raised the issue and tried to discuss it in order to find a solution but without success, it leaves you with very few options. The upshot is that you have to be true to yourself. Life is to short to live with regrets so if the situation can't be resolved by talking, counseling etc then make plans to get out of the relationship. Far easier said then done but for your own happiness and sanity it seems the only option. Good luck
Posted Sat Feb 28, 2015 07:21 PM
Posted Sat Mar 28, 2015 10:08 PM
Posted Sun Mar 29, 2015 08:48 AM
If you arent ready to call it quits maybe ask her for a friend's with benefits.