Ever Lost Interest in Sex?
Posted Fri Apr 17, 2015 10:14 PM
I know it is my past mostly. I am 55, healthy, good looking, etc. I am on testosterone and my level is great. I think it's too many years of no sex partner and just masturbation. I've grown used to taking care of my own needs when I want, where I want, etc. No waiting for your partner to get home, hope they are in the mood, figuring out how to initiate, then hoping you can perform. Masturbation sometimes doesn't work but at least I'm not disappointing someone or wearing them out for nothing. Plus if you look at porn when you masturbate you get used to a "voyeur's view." You see the act from the outside and different angles. Engaging in sex is different unless you are surrounded by mirrors or cameras wired to monitors. You also don't get the variety.
My finance is pretty traditional. She would never go for mirrors, video, porn on in the background, etc. She doesn't even like lingerie. She is great looking and certainly willing but has a pretty low libido herself. No guarantee any of that would make a difference for me. I just might be stuck with solo sex for the rest of my life. I have, by the way, seen a sex therapist. She agrees I find solo sex easier and probably have some intimacy issues. The funny thing is I am a photographer and shoot beautiful women all the time including boudoir sessions but it does not arouse me.
It seems hopeless to me. Still thought I'd ask if anyone on here has ever been in that situation. Any women who want to be friends and try and restart my libido you are welcome to try. Otherwise I think partner sex is over for me. Never had much anyhow.
Posted Sat Apr 18, 2015 08:38 AM
turning gay, and your partner is hetero
low testosterone in men
low sex hormones in women
pain during intercourse that makes you shy away from it
some form of erectile dysfunction that makes you avoid situations where u have to perform
bored with "normal" sex, but have not discovered new things, like bdsm, etc
dislike of your partner that you have not admitted yet
punishing your partner for some past behavior by withholding sex (perhaps subconsciously)
the bait and switch, where a woman has wild sex right up until their first kid is born, then they no longer need a man for sex
general rejection....where you get turned down most or all times you initiate, and just learn to live with no sex
Sexless relationship, where the other partner is having all sorts of sex....just with partners other than you, and you get humiliated
you have become Asexual
You have watched soooo much porn, and jerked off soooo much, that you have no sensitivity left
the list goes on and on.
I guess the choice you have is to figure out WHY you are that way, decide if you want to work on it, and then act.
if you really want, unless you are now asexual, there is probably a way to get horny again. but you will need a "change of venue" to achieve that.
Posted Sat Apr 18, 2015 09:11 AM
also - to be taken to 100,000 feet and "abandoned".....is cruel wicked and no way do you want a repeat....
the only other reason is where one partner is "abusive".....GREAT sex after all equals equality
This post has been edited by THE MINX: Sat Apr 18, 2015 09:18 AM
Posted Sat Apr 18, 2015 04:44 PM
It's ok so long as she is ok with it. If she needs more than that then I'm not the guy for her as I don't think my interest in sex will ever come back.
Posted Sun Apr 19, 2015 12:52 PM
Posted Mon Apr 20, 2015 10:59 AM