Is Sex just sex, or do you have fun together while doing it?
Posted Fri Jul 31, 2015 06:21 AM
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Posted Sat Aug 01, 2015 11:57 PM
I can't remember the last time hubs and I didn't laugh at least a couple times during sex. Something always makes us giggle lol
Posted Mon Aug 03, 2015 01:11 PM
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Posted Fri Aug 14, 2015 03:26 PM
This should not be confused with sex play, where I'll insert the penis an inch or so and not move, for instance. After a while, my partner will reach out with her vulva, trying to pull me into her, or grab at my penis with her hand. I pull away, or move her hand, which makes her more and more anxious.
It's a game, of course, a tease to heighten one another's desire. It's important to be able to read your lover's mood. but if she isn't in the mood, I can always wait. I played a game recently, where I'd grab her butt and say "sooooo... wanna fuck?", which was shortened to just "sooooo...?"
We both laughed, but one day she was anxious about something else, and launched into a whole
"well, I'm not going to have sex whenever you want it because I'm an independent woman and I choose when and where and with whom and you don't own me and I only want to fuck when I'm good and ready and..."
routine. So I said okay. And didn't approach sexually for the rest of the day. or the next day. or the next week.
When she came to me in bed, kissing and rubbing, I kissed her, but didn't touch her; I said good night and rolled over. After a couple of nights, she asked me in a worried voice what was wrong. I told her nothing was wrong, I love her, there's no problem. She said that there was a problem, because I wasn't interested in having sex the last few days.
I took a deep breath, and said
"well, I'm not going to have sex whenever you want it because I'm a grown man and I choose when and where and with whom and you don't own me and I only want to fuck when I'm good and ready and..."
And she laughed.
It's important to be able to read your lover's mood, but it's also good for her to know that there are two people, whose needs and feelings are to be considered, in every relationship.
This post has been edited by Scotty Wright: Fri Aug 14, 2015 03:33 PM
Posted Sun Aug 16, 2015 09:56 AM
Posted Sun Aug 16, 2015 01:45 PM
For me, it's fun. It's meaningful. It's something special you share with the person you love. I never have sex with my girlfriend just for the sake of having sex. We have sex with each other because we love each other AND because it's fun. But, if we didn't care for each other then it wouldn't be fun - it would just be mechanical and weird.