Your personal sexual evolution
Posted Fri Aug 21, 2015 06:02 PM
One that I've noticed recently- the pleasure-pain link. For many years, pain was a complete turn-off. I'm sure if someone wanted to search my posts here they would find many statements by me announcing just that. Well, there was an older man I was playing with earlier this year who introduced me to the pleasures of nipple chewing. And the cliche "hurts so good" began to make sense. I was driving late last night, horny and bored, when I started to get very sleepy. One of my standard ways of waking myself up while driving is to slap my thighs. The pain sharpens my mind and keeps me alert. There was an added effect last night, though. Being already horny and aroused, the pain was turning me on more.
Definitely a change for me. I'm sure I'll have fun exploring this new thing.
Posted Fri Aug 21, 2015 07:45 PM
Posted Sat Aug 22, 2015 01:43 AM
I've severely simplified my views & tolerances as to what I find acceptable , where I used to be far more "liberal"
Posted Sat Aug 22, 2015 09:01 PM
I've always been fairly vanilla in my tastes, but I was open to try a few things. And yes, Firefly, pain and pleasure rarely intersected in my sexual universe. Ditto for bestiality, scatology, BDSM, humiliation or abuse, verbal or otherwise (my present partner enjoys spanking, so I've evolved to that extent). My physical limitations make it necessary to alter what things I do and how, but...
I have become more patient, and a bit more assertive with my partners. But I'm still the same about meeting women: I don't coax, beg or coerce. If she's not interested or not ready, no biggie. If she wants a chasing game, she can find someone else...
All in all, it's been 42 years of sexual fun, and more ahead, I bet!
Posted Sat Aug 22, 2015 10:20 PM
I used to be more shy about it. So when I engaged in my "me time", I was easily embarrassed, so I usually always had myself covered. Either not getting fully undressed-even leaving pants on, or having a blanket over me. I don't have that issue anymore. Guess I just got more comfortable. Not too much, but still an improvement.
Overall, I am a bit more comfortable with my body-least when it comes to privacy. If I am home, I don't have to be covered from head to toe like in the past lol
Willingness to Settle
So I am more willing to accept possible casual affairs--ONS relations, or a FWB situation if I am lucky long as I find the man in question physically attractive. That's better than nothing. So I am not as staunch in "I won't / don't do casual." because it's better than nothing. So if a man I find hot is interested, and not a total creep/condescending in his approach, then i'll take him up on sex.. Not expecting love, or commitment, before or after sexual activity.
So, nothing really huge. Just more my standards lowering And, aside from anything masochistic or group activities-orgies / 3ways, etc, then i'll try anything once, and if I don't like, won't do again.
So I am getting to a point where I am more "take what you have a chance for" with any male I find handsome.
This post has been edited by VanillaChocolate: Sat Aug 22, 2015 10:29 PM
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