Offering to help gf with a boob job. ladies advice requested.
Posted Wed Dec 24, 2008 01:24 AM
She's does not have small boobs by any means, larger B's I believe, but the problem is I know shes a little shy about them because one is a bit bigger than the other. It's nothing drastic, but its noticeable when she's naked. Sometimes when she wears certain tops or bathing suits, I can tell.
She's sent me naked pictures before and does not seem to be tooooo self conscious about them, but you can tell she acknowledges it. When we have sex it seems she usually prefers to keep her bra on (their all VS pushups, so they are sexy as hell) but when i do get it off, i can feel that shes a little self conscious about showing them fully.
Like being on top of me and sitting up, she tends to try and squeeze them 2gether or hold them with her hands.
So my question is pretty much, do you think she'd be offended if i came to her, when we graduate college and proposed the idea?
I'd most likely bring her some pictures of boobs in the C range, of ones I find would suit her well, and tell her id be willing to pitch in a good amount if she wanted to get it done.
seems kinda forward, but ladies, if it was your boyfriend of 7-8 years, would u feel it to be insulting or encouraging??
Posted Wed Dec 24, 2008 04:31 PM
Posted Wed Dec 24, 2008 06:01 PM
Posted Wed Dec 24, 2008 06:11 PM
Compliment her boobs the way they are. It will do a lot more for both of you than a boob job ever could.
Posted Wed Dec 24, 2008 06:41 PM
Posted Wed Dec 24, 2008 08:33 PM
gotta love them the way they are... which is not a hard thing to do...
i will assume since you didnt mention it, that she has never brought up surgery... if she does let her know you like her the way she is..be cause u darn well should!
Posted Thu Dec 25, 2008 02:20 AM
Posted Thu Dec 25, 2008 03:45 AM
And as the years went on we would joke around about her boobs alone and with her girlfriends. But I always made sure to show her that I don't mind the way she looks and was happy with what she has.
But now that she is almost 24, and is into wearing more adult clothing (instead of the cute teenage girl stuff) she began complaining that the tops she loves don't fit her right because of her one smaller boob. I tried making her feel better about it because she did look really hot in those kinds of tops but I also could see what she was saying.
Then her sister told her that she was thinking of getting a boob job because after she had two kids she lost almost all of her boobs. This got my wife thinking about getting one as well and I told her I will support whatever decision she decides to make. It's not about me, it is about her and how she feels about herself.
Hope my little story is of some help to you. I'm sure some will view me as an asshole for the way I approached the situation but that is how I am.
Just make sure not to pressure her in either direction, she has to make up her own mind.
Posted Fri Dec 26, 2008 02:30 PM
Posted Sun Dec 28, 2008 08:08 AM
One of my boobs is slightly bigger than the other because boobs are pretty much fat and I'm right handed therefore my right boob is smaller because of always using my right arm/muscles.
Posted Mon Dec 29, 2008 04:51 PM
Think of it like this - if she wanted you to get a dick job (ie to make it bigger and, infinitely more 'fun' for her) and she came out with all this cash and told you she'd been saving up for it, how would you feel? Really, think about it.
Posted Thu Jan 01, 2009 11:43 PM
Posted Sun Jan 04, 2009 10:58 AM
You have to understand that many women have insecurity issues with the size of their breasts, just as many guys have the same issues about the size of their tool. If you have been with your GF for so many years as you stated, then it is obvious that you care for her sincerely. If that is true, you need to understand that she can recieve 10 times the boost in self esteem about her breasts from comments her beloved BF can potentially make to her, than she could from getting fake breasts. While at the same time, there is a huge chance that simply the fact that her BF brought up the idea she should get fake breasts could lower her self esteem ten times as much as her knowing one breast is slightly larger/smaller than the other.
My question for you is; If you really sincerely love her, do you really want to run the risk of hurting her self esteem severly, just so you can have her breasts a little closer to "fake perfect"?
All humans are imprefect. Many have eyes that are a little higher or a little lower, a nose that is a little crooked, ears that are not exactly level. These things are what make us different, and make us who we are. As a guy who is not perfect (and my point being all of us guys fall into this category), I hope that my GF does all she can to put me at ease about my imperfections, because by doing so, that is what makes her "perfect" in my eyes.
Posted Sun Jan 04, 2009 11:49 AM
It's a tough one, because I can see that you want to do this for her self confidence, and not because they bother you.
I'd bring it up, but I'm not sure where to go with it really. In an ideal world, she'd learn to "love herself", and I'm sure you're very encouraging of her. It just seems like this (sadly) may be the only way of boosting her confodence.
That said, if it leaves scarring, you could be back to square one.
Posted Sun Jan 11, 2009 05:03 PM
Basically what everyone else in the thread has been saying, make her feel at ease with herself by complimenting her body and telling her how much you love it. It'll make her feel better about herself rather than you suggesting a boob job and telling her you've been saving for it.