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Let go of the whole "trying to make her think x or y" and just be unabashedly you. If you want to take her to dinner, tell her you'd like to take her to dinner. If you want to play chess with her while discussing the drawbacks of Keynesian economics in the context of purely fiat currencies, tell her that's what you want. Even if you want some cheap bang-bang sex, no strings attached, say it.
Don't look for some stupid protocol to follow that others insist will help you get this chick to date you. If she wants to date you, she'll simply agree to go on a date with you. If she doesn't, no amount of compliments is going to make you more appealing. If she wants to bang you, she'll simply agree to some horizontal mambo lessons regardless of how direct you are about it....and no amount of nice-guy candy-pants crap is going to make you sexually attractive to her...ditto on being attracted to you personality-wise, etc.
If she responds negatively to the direct approach, don't worry about "oh gee, if only I didn't say x or y, she'd have been interested in me." I firmly believe chicks are either lying or dead wrong when the say they want a nice guy who compliments them and acts like a twerp. Nice guys finish last. It's the assholes that they inevitably end up banging, falling in love with, and complaining to all their nice-guy friends about but wont leave.
Many will say I'm wrong, and I'm totally ok with that. I am the douchbag they're banging while they long for, yet ignore when they meet, the nice guy that showers them with compliments. Do what you want...I'm just sayin' what I've observed.
Posted Sat Jan 18, 2014 04:31 PM
1. I love reading your posts!
2. I agree with most of this... It may just be because I have a 'don't give a fuck' attitude BUT I would rather guys be straight up with me about what they want from me. If a guy wants to take me out then that is all he has to say... if he isn't some guy I have just met I have probably already decided how far, if at all, I am willing to go with said person!
BUT some girls do like the lovey dovey whatever big acts of kindness... you need to know which kind of girl you are dealing with and go from there! You best bet is to just invite her out... just you and her and see where it goes from there!