I'm in a Quandry Older men and younger women
Posted Mon Jan 04, 2016 09:21 PM
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Posted Tue Jan 05, 2016 06:26 PM
I'm sure you know all of the above already. If you still want to ask her out, then do it (assuming she is available, not partnered with someone.) You're old enough to understand actions have consequences and I'm sure you're smart enough to understand you may not like the consequences this particular action will likely have. But that may be preferable to spending the rest of your life wondering what-would-have-happened-if?
Posted Tue Jan 05, 2016 08:40 PM
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Posted Thu Jan 07, 2016 09:49 AM
Are you seriously thinking this could work on any physical level?
I am only a few years younger than you, with a daughter of 21, and if she had a physical relationship with anybody in their fifties I would be knocking on his door.
Posted Thu Jan 07, 2016 07:18 PM
I can't speak for your situation, but it seems that some young women are more open with much older men just because they don't view us as a viable partner, short or long term. And I also think of the line from Elton John's song "Sacrifice" -- "some things look better just passing through." Relishing the attraction/attention does feel good, but I think it would be impractical to try to advance the relationship. But that's just my opinion, not knowing you or this young lady and your dynamic.
Posted Fri Jan 08, 2016 01:03 AM
I dunno.... I have seen some men that are in their 50's and 60's that make a woman wanna holler damn! Just as there are some women in that age range that make any man drool. She might be just friendly, but if he does not ask, he will never know. I agree they may not be the norm, but they are there.
He is as he has said an alpha, if she says no he will get over it and if she say yes, who knows.
Not every date has to be for that soul mate, simply enjoying each other's company for the time it lasts may be enough. Most relationships of any age range don't develop into anything more.
As for the other comment about maturity. Really. 20 year old females may be more mature than 20 year old males but they are still not mature. Maturity is not just about age, but about life experiences and the wisdom one gains from those experiences and/or age. But 20 years old is an adult. Barely, but nonetheless an adult. Both are adults and if they should both want to overcome that 39 year old age gap, more power to them.
On that note, one of my friends had parents that had a 32 year age gap. Her mom married her dad at 19 and he was 51. They were married for almost 40 years. She loved that man. They had two children my friend and her older brother. He remained active until he died. I know this is not the norm, but it goes to show such relationships can be strong, loving ones. For the curious, he was not rich. He was a good man, provided the best he could for his family. Not rich monetarily, but his riches were his children, a loving wife, and a long life.
Posted Fri Jan 08, 2016 01:05 AM
Invite her out for coffee or lunch. You will know if she is a polite young woman vs a woman interested in you. See where it goes. At 20 years old she is an adult.