How do the people who no longer interested in sex expect there partner to cope ?
Posted Thu Jan 07, 2016 05:55 PM
This is just A question which I hope to gain insight on .
Posted Thu Jan 07, 2016 07:35 PM
Posted Thu Jan 07, 2016 07:42 PM
If I knew the answer that would rekindle a satisfactory sex life for both spouses, I would probably be the richest marriage counselor on the planet.
Posted Thu Jan 07, 2016 08:18 PM
Posted Thu Jan 07, 2016 11:04 PM
Most women lose interest due to self confidence, menopause and age... Men erectile dysfunction, age..
Physical ailments such as heart, injury, arthritis play a small percentage in both male and females reasons for a loss of interest
My study of a 100 men and women have proven this... Based on my own actual painstaking study of asking 100 different men and women personal intimate questions based on sex and communication within the marriage have shown these results.. Other studies may vary.
women will leave before having an affair at 15%, 20% will have the affair, and 40% will stay and stick it out.. 25% will turn to toys and other self masterbation. The men will leave at 5%, 35% will stay yet carry on an affair, 35% will turn to porn and sites such as this one and 25% will pay for sexual interaction, via strip clubs, escort services, and or prostitution.. None of the women said they would pay for any type of sexual interaction.
An eye opener for sure...
Back to the question though.. Regardless of whether one is interested or not, sex should not be denied to your spouse whether it be a woman or a man doing the denying.. relationships should be kept fun and exciting with in our verbal communication as well as sensual communication.. NO one should be lacking in any of these things within the relationship..
This post has been edited by jacey: Thu Jan 07, 2016 11:19 PM
Posted Thu Jan 07, 2016 11:21 PM
Then, in a turn a fate my wife found a great integrative medicine doctor that got her medical issues in check. At the same time he also tested me for low testosterone. It's been 5 years since that turn and all I can say is: We fuck like rabbits! We talk about sex. We look up interesting toy reviews and share a bit of porn together. We enjoy sex like there's no tommorrow (see my about me page and you'll see where I'm going with this).
Bottom line: Being sexless is a symptom that has to be addressed before you cheat or leave. I'm glad we figured that out!
Posted Sun Jan 10, 2016 08:44 AM
I realized the only one I can control is me. I looked at myself physically and in the way I conducted myself and realized I wouldn't want to fuck me either. I wasn't leading this family. I was not leading my wife.
I got my shit together, never said a word to her, just worked my ass off to be the best I could be. Who I was supposed to be. After about six months things began to change in the marriage and the bedroom. It has progressed to where we are today. She went from having to lead and make the decisions (because I was lazy and afraid of upsetting her leading to even less sex)to her following my lead, and becoming the strong but submissive wife she wanted to be. In conversations since the change, she has said that I was who she wanted me to be in the beginning, but I turned into a pussy at some point when it came to her (I thought women liked being in control, The old "happy wife happy life." Mine did not want that). She welcomed me back.
The key is to realize you cannot change other people, you can only control yourself. Your change will either inspire theirs or not.
To answer your question, I put up with it for a long time, but I had enough. I realized life was too short to live without the marriage and sex you want.