Dont know what to think anymore
Posted Thu Jan 01, 2009 11:56 AM
Now to the current situation. Over the holiday weekend i i flew to NC to see my family i havent seen them in almost a year. I didnt want to go at first because i was nervous about leaving her...just had a bad feeling. But familys important and she convinced me to go. The day i was leaving he started txting her to hang out and i begged her not to especially not while i was gone. She said she wouldnt. Later that night i called her and she said she was at a friends house. But was shady as hell about it i knew something was up. So i called her friend and sure enough she wasnt at her house. So i called her back and after awhile she confessed to being at his house with some of his other friends. She got pissed at me and told me she had to lie because i always overreact...BS but w.e. So i let it go have a good time with family come home have a good time with her but that night she asks me to go turn her phone off...this is where im in the wrong i know i got curious and checked her txt messages. There were all kinds of messages to each other about her having liking him and them wanting to kiss and playing truth or dare on how something wasnt cheating! I was like what the fuck! So i got short tempered and confronted her about it she got pissed at me about going through her phone and wouldnt tell me anything about what happend. Then this morning she didnt talk so i said can we talk about it when you get home from work and she said theres nothing to talk about. Now im at home waiting for her to get back from work and i dont know what to do? I mean obviously this doesnt seem good and im not going to let her shit on me like this. But iv been with her for so long, we live together we almost had a kid together and we are engaged and at this point everything seems like its about to fall apart and i dont know what to do. I never would have thought she would do something like this even tho she has lied to be before. Any input would be great.
Posted Thu Jan 01, 2009 12:27 PM
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Posted Thu Jan 01, 2009 04:52 PM
sorry I cannot offer up more positive info, but you have been cool- you trusted her about that last "thing". Then as you were going away you asked her to NOT do anything with HIM. She said yes. Lied. Got caught lying, and so did the traditional guilty tactic, which was take the offensive. Saying its your fault because your over reacting- then you totally find the proof in the phone. The only reason she is pissed is because she is caught. She is probabily cheating, but totally lying, and lying is not a place you want to be when trying to slip a ring on her finger.
She will never "come out of it" if she thinks your without a back bone. You will never get her back if you dont go away. Cryptic shit, but the truth. Leave her now to get her back later.
P.S. and if this were not a peace and love board, I would tell you to find the dude and show him why real men dont wait for a women's man to go off to war so they can sneak in the back door- because eventually the real men come back! But since that would be suggesting violence, I will not do that.... isnt it a great thing when we all think alike anyway so I dont have to suggest it?
Posted Thu Jan 01, 2009 07:59 PM
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Posted Thu Jan 01, 2009 09:24 PM
Just leave. If the lease is in your name then take off for a few days and tell her you want her out. If it's in both your names then you might have a harder time but you can still get out of it.
You can not trust her and unfortunite as it is you need to get out before you actually marry her and are really stuck.
Not to sound mean at all and I hope it doesn't but you need to be realistic.
Posted Fri Jan 02, 2009 12:13 AM
It's sad to see a relationship crumble for any reason, but it is generally good to be honest with both yourself and your partner right from the start of trouble. I wish I had known enough to do this way back when!!
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Posted Sat Jan 03, 2009 12:39 AM
then DITCH THE BITCH, LETS GO FISHING!
but seriously, dump her ass. if getting her out will be hard, then start bringing other girls around.....right in front of her. if she gets shitty, call the PO'PO's. and have her removed from the place.
if she isnt on the lease, and you can boot her, when she leaves, box all her shit up (minus expensive jewelry YOU bought outright) and put it by the door.......
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