New GF Says She Hates Oral Sex should i stay or should i go, lol
Posted Mon Jan 18, 2016 07:35 PM
My question is, on a long term basis is it possible to have amazing sex without oral sex? What do folk do for foreplay that dont practice oral sex?
Posted Mon Jan 18, 2016 10:57 PM
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Posted Tue Jan 19, 2016 12:53 AM
I have a fwb who doesn't do most of the stuff that you have mentioned and that is more than fine for me. I'm not into anal anyway so not doing that is no bother for me. She does go down on me but I know she fully isn't into it so I generally forgo that and she doesn't like anyone going down on her. That I do miss. However she sure knows how to tease me with her hands and since I really enjoy her company that makes up for it. I'd love for us to be gf/bf and I could live with that type of sex life.
As Atheist said you could also discuss with her why she dislikes it and maybe work with her to overcome the dislike for it. But its your call whatever you decide though if you don't want to continue to see her then let her know soon coz so not to string her along.
Posted Tue Jan 19, 2016 09:52 PM
From what she told me there did not seem to be anything in particular that put her off oral, she says if she goes near 'it' she is totally turned off, she never mentioned hygiene reasons or similar. I would like to think i could be patient and show her the way but it really sounds like nothing is gonna help, she tried most things with previous partners.
I consider bj's and muff diving the basics of foreplay. At the moment i dont know how good sex is likely to be, i fear it could be a case of 'light out' and missionary position lol.
I guess like you say lots of things could be done with hands, i fear she may not be very adventurous. Im not likely to find out soon as i think she take things very slowly.
Posted Wed Jan 20, 2016 01:13 PM
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Posted Mon Jan 25, 2016 08:05 PM
Finally, one night during sex after we were married, I told her that she should try it. She carried on like I was poisoning her when she put the tip in her mouth, so I gave up and did without that particular pleasure for several years of my life. (Chris Rock has a routine about the 3 types of women giving head -- those who absolutely won't, those who do it as a courtesy and those who "suck it like it has the antidote." I've known all 3 kinds.)
The thing about your situation I noticed is that you say you're taking it slow. It makes me wonder if she isn't leading you on, delaying sex and letting you know oral is completely off-limits. As already stated in this thread, you can't force the issue without resentment and anger on somebody's part. I'd express to her some of the things you've told us -- that you consider a healthy sexual relationship to have a wider range of experiences -- or at least finding some "middle ground" in the process. Good luck to you!
Posted Tue Jan 26, 2016 01:47 AM
a wife that is just as reppressed, and if I had it to do over
again I wouldn't have married her. We're still together, still
love her, but I wish things would change. I have been busting
my ass for years trying to find some way of helping her, but
it's not going to happen, and the therapists I talked to
all said the same thing, that she never will.
She lets me eat her, and she cums, but our sex life consists
of her NEVER starting anything, never does one thing I didn't ask her to do,
send her doing as fast as she can go get it over with.
She puts nothing into it, don't make the same mistake I did.
If you love sex find someone else who does to. Unless you want to end up
jerking off a lot and trying desperately not to cheat, like me.
Posted Thu Jan 28, 2016 07:41 PM
I met a woman tonight who seems to be more devious than me, she has had lots of kinky sex and had 4 guys at once. We really have a spark, she told me we will meet tomorrow, not for drinks, straight to sex. I love sluts so im happy to meet such a woman. Im very experienced but i get the feeling this woman might show me a thing or 2 lol