In love but cheating?
Posted Wed Feb 17, 2016 03:57 AM
Posted Wed Feb 17, 2016 06:23 AM
I cheated, and ended my marriage. The new relationship didn't last long, but I was so glad I was out of my marriage.
It was a long time ago & I still regret Cheating, but I dont regret getting out of the marriage and never have. I also dont regret getting with the woman I cheated with, she could suck start a Harley Davidson, but I do wish I had ended the marriage first.
I have been married to my second wife now for 20 years and although our sex life is near non existent, I would never cheat on her.
Heres how i look at it... If someone is throwing $100 notes at you, do you want them to stop? Of course not. Happy people DONT LIKE CHANGE.
The only people that ever want anything to change are UNHAPPY PEOPLE.
So if you want to cheat, then your obviously not happy in the relationship you are in. My advise, GET OUT FIRST. That way, you never have to live with what I have lived with all these years.
There is one other thing to consider however... If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, maybe you need to water your grass.
Posted Wed Feb 17, 2016 08:13 AM
Posted Wed Feb 17, 2016 08:27 AM
i agree to that... it's either you love or not, that simple.
Posted Wed Feb 17, 2016 09:07 AM
1. One person is selfish. They love their partner, but don't have the will or desire to resist temptation. Or they want something different now and again, so they cheat. However, they may not want to hurt the SO. My pastor mentioned this once. That sometimes when people do bad or selfish things, it's not with anyone else in mind. So when they sleep with that other person, they were doing something that makes them feel good. However, they don't intend to hurt their SO, which is why they may hide it. He states some wonder "why would they want to hurt me like this." And he states that they didn't want to hurt you. They weren't trying to do anything to you, because they probably didn't plan for you to find out. That way, for some cheaters, everyone wins. They get what they want, and by keeping it secret, their partner doesn't have to know and be hurt.
I don't advocate cheating. I think it's very lowdown. But I think sometimes, it's not always showing there is no love.
Posted Wed Feb 17, 2016 09:15 AM
This post has been edited by White.Rabbit: Wed Feb 17, 2016 09:51 AM
Posted Wed Feb 17, 2016 09:45 AM
Totally agree. You don't cheat on the one you love.
Posted Wed Feb 17, 2016 06:11 PM
If you are constantly horny in your relationship you will desire more and some choose to act on it.
Posted Wed Feb 17, 2016 08:50 PM
What would make you turn to another?
Posted Wed Feb 17, 2016 09:22 PM
No they can't,
if they really loved them they would not deceive and hurt them
Posted Wed Feb 17, 2016 11:53 PM
This post has been edited by jacey: Wed Feb 17, 2016 11:55 PM
Posted Thu Feb 18, 2016 03:44 AM
no,,,,either ur in love with them and want to be with only them or ur not ,,,just my opion
Posted Thu Feb 18, 2016 03:47 AM
Posted Thu Feb 18, 2016 08:32 AM
Love, real true powerful love, does not cheat.
Posted Thu Feb 18, 2016 07:36 PM
Never understood why my x did it to me let alone why i thought i'd feel better if i did it back.. I've been with my husband (now) for 20 years, that man has me wrapped around his little finger, still feel the same way today as i did when we first started dating... hooked, and sunk deeply in love..
Posted Fri Feb 19, 2016 11:22 AM
Posted Fri Feb 19, 2016 09:10 PM
Posted Fri Feb 26, 2016 07:01 PM
I think it is possible to be in love with one person and sleep with another, but it is more a question of your own morals. Some people think the only way a relationship can work is by sleeping with other people.