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Posted Sat Jan 17, 2009 05:52 PM
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years. We are lucky if we have sex once a week. ::SIGH:::
The reason for this?
"You want it too much... It makes me feel like I'm not the man and its a huge turn off when you are asking for it all the time."
:::SIGH:::: Its definitely ruining our relationship. But when I let the reigns go a bit and "act like the girl" we still don't get any!!! AAARRGGGGGG!
I've always been sexually assertive but I've never been with a guy that didn't love it! I told him the other night 'maybe if you did it more I could do it less..."
How do I fix this?
I don't want to hijack the thread but know that I will be paying close attention to this one lol
Posted Sat Jan 17, 2009 08:06 PM
I have always thought that the issue was not that I have to actually speak the words "hey sugar, do you want to go be alone for awhile?" but actually feeling that because "the other" does not ask, maybe she does not feel attracted to me. We all know that when we ask our SO "baby are you attracted to me sexually?" they all say yes, or they would not be together with us. But that does not change the fact that we want to see PROOF!!
As a guy, I feel two types of sexual needs- 1- personal in which I want to connect with my S.O. and feel love/attraction within our relationship, and 2- is the straight animal need/instinctual sex- far less personal/love oriented, but sometimes prevelant more often.
When I feel like I am "drowning" my GF in sexual attention, and I see her "giving" me sex, but not really "needing" the sex, I usually try and tone down the amount of times weekly that I "use her as an outlet" for the second type of sex (the animalistic need for hedenistic release) usually by simply brute determination, or if all else fails, excessive masturbation- just so there is a time where I am not "all over her". This time allows her to "feel something is missing", she eventually realizes what it is, and SHE comes looking for me to rub up against, and that is the sex that really makes me content- because she is showing me that I am something she wants, and that gives me something more than sexual release.
GSXRblondie- I fear to think about what would happen if a guy with my sex drive got together with a girl with your sex drive..... but it is probabily better if we never know- humans have to eat and sleep sometime.