Is it appropriate?
Posted Wed Jan 07, 2009 08:39 PM
Do you think it is appropriate for someone to post nude and provocative pictures (face obscured) of themselves on a site like this when they are in a monogamous relationship and their partner does not know about it?
I do not think my boyfriend would approve that I have posted pictures on this site. I'm not completely certain why I do it, but I don't think I'd tell him either. I'm not sure if it's a violation of trust or not. I know he does not like me going out in clothes that are very revealing.
I just think about all those girls that post ho-ish pictures of themselves half-naked on Facebook or MySpace... and they have boyfriends!! I would never do that. What makes this site different though?
Posted Wed Jan 07, 2009 08:50 PM
For myself, I dont mind having my pictures on here. I dont think that I am super attractive, more of just an average person. But since I enjoy the other members photos I feel I should add mine to collection. My girlfriend knows of the photos we have on this forum, but she does know that I have photos on another forum which she knows I belong to. However, but require anonymity, and I don't know I would keep them up if my true Identity was known.
I have had a few picture requests that include my face, but I am still 'iffy' about that. However, I dont think there is anything wrong with this forum and its content, since its truly the opposite of facebook.
Posted Wed Jan 07, 2009 10:13 PM
Posted Wed Jan 07, 2009 11:35 PM
it doesn't sound like you're lying because he hasn't confronted you (or has he?), but tiptoeing behind his back isn't exactly honest..
you should probably do something about this sooner rather than later because it's obviously bothering you..
i say tell him and then try to reach some kind of understanding with him.. of course you enjoy this site so for your sake i hope he's willing to consider that.. if not it might be time to seriously outweigh the pros and cons of your relationship..
Posted Thu Jan 08, 2009 01:37 AM
Posted Thu Jan 08, 2009 04:16 AM
maybe a bigger issue would be the fact that you enjoy these sorts of posts and cant do them in the open (regarding SO)
the biggest plus from this site is the fact that you will only be judged if you ask to be
Posted Fri Jan 09, 2009 01:21 AM
Aw man, from1toZ, I love you! Really! When I read what you wrote,
But then, mrfriendly815 just took the words right outta my mouth,
But that is why I come here. I talk about things that I can't talk to her about. Call it bad communications or whatever, but it's a fact.
Not everyone finds a partner who is open to some of my...desires.
I guess, I'm currently in a phase of, "why should I live MY life to please others? why not pleasure myself?" I've only got one pic, my avatar, but I tell you honestly, everytime I receive a compliment on it, I break out in giggles, really! And that's not because it's a bad or naughty thing... It's because the kind words are a much needed validation.... it is about feeling alive and connected... to the world and to one's self and to other people...
And so, like the bumper sticker, "shit happens"... well, yeah, "circumstances happen"... everyone's life unfolds differently, and not everyone finds a partner who is open to ..... and yeah, jenamalone, it might be time to look at the pros and cons of your relationship and what you want out of life in general...
Posted Fri Jan 09, 2009 01:43 AM
and its completely anonymous, face not showing and whatnot.
and i like your pics, so i think its very appropriate.
i dunno if that answer works or not, its hard to not think about not frequently visiting a site like this since i have for so long
Posted Fri Jan 09, 2009 02:59 AM
I never went back...
The other 3 girls who went, got into stripping and all sorts of activities. Now I'm older I think that if they enjoyed it, then good luck to them.
I have achieved in business and as a Mum, but now I'm 38 and I've started a new dance... it's made me wonder whether I should have let myself be pulled from the stage all those years ago...
Thankfully, SF has provided me another stage and wonderful people to go with it...
My two cents worth is: Listen to other people, as they may have valid advice, but don't be forced into abandoning your passions or interests... If you can't be 100% up front and honest with your partner, your with the wrong one...
Posted Fri Jan 09, 2009 05:26 AM
Its fine to be on here, no one knows you
Posted Fri Jan 09, 2009 11:44 AM
On this site, I post anonymous pictures of myself, announce off the bat that I have a boyfriend, and have my private messages turned off. I don't recall ever flirting with other members, nor do I even wander into the Male Member Content boards... photographs of naked men don't really do it for me. I use this site to ask questions, contribute to discussion and to get the sense of validation that my boyfriend does not always give me.
If he has a problem with it, he'd have to make an effort to remind me of these things more often. I'm not about to tell him I go on this site, though. I do still feel sort of guilty, but I think my reasons for doing this are harmless enough that I am not really violating the terms of monogamy.