Posted Sun Jan 11, 2009 06:11 PM
I ended up going and getting really drunk and telling L what I thought of him and his views on people. At some point I told him I Hated him.
The next week I get an aim message from the same guy. He apologized for his behaviour and comments that he made towards me. And preceded to talk to me for about an hour. At one point he said that my friends and I were talking about our best features and I said mine were my breasts. He said that he was disappointed that he couldn't see them to judge for himself. I was actually ataken back by this. I laughed it off saying I dont remember much of that night and that I was embarrassed that I behaved so badly.
He offered to make it up to me.... By sending naked pictures of himself to me.
I said that it was unneccessary and he changed the topic.
I told one of my girl friends about it and she added him to her myspace and messaged him. He only said hi to her and nothing else. She thinks that this means he likes me or something.
So that was about 2 months ago. He still IMs me regularly and we just chat about usual stuff. I have not seen him since that night I got drunk.
About a week ago we were talking and he brought up the pictures again. This time I told him that I didn't care what he did. And he sent me them. To be honest I was curious not to see the pictures but to find out why he wanted me to see them.
He said that he hadn't shown anyone else the pictures and only wanted me to see them. This confuses me because he still openly talks about how overweight people are disgusting and should be left on an island to fend for themselves. Yet he continues to talk to me knowing that I am overweight. I don't know if he's just bored or what but it confuses me that he only talks to me about this stuff.
We have only talked once since he sent me the pictures and it was a very awkward conversation.
I don't know what to do about this and I can't talk to my friend about it because she'll tell her guy friend.
Her guy friend and L are moving in together soon and I know that I'll be seeing more of him now.
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Posted Mon Jan 12, 2009 01:58 AM
Number 1, its not like they were BEST firends or anything, they were simply 2 people who could have hooked up but didnt so they kept in touch. Second... Why would any guy, or girl, need to go out with a random stranger that they have spoken too because of a sexual attracion 1 on 1?? By my accord that is a DATE. I understand that sometimes you want to be able to go and talk to someone alone sure, but a whole fucking day of hanging out, cooking for him, eating out with him comeon, she should stop being selfish and think how it will make you feel.
I read somewhere about signs of commitment isses. One of which was how a person plans, and if they make future or current plans often without you included there could be an issue.
I think what you should do is talk to her, tell her it makes you uncomfterbel. Dont tell her she cant do it, thats just wrong, but let her know you think spending a whole day with some guy and doing the things you two do togher is just a little overboard. Or if thats not what you think tell her what you think. If shit blows up, better now than later, in the end its always the one who acutally cares that gets hurt, the longer it takes the more they get hurt.
Posted Mon Jan 12, 2009 02:20 AM
So I agree with what everyone said about him being a jerk but he did apologize about what he said. I haven't seen him since he apologized and am kinda wondering if he'll treat me differently now.
Anyways the real problem is that he is moving in with my best friend's kinda boyfriend. We do everything together (Me, this girl and one other girl). Now that they are kinda dating that means the friend will be around more. I don't mind seeing him at his house and whatnot but since I have seen all of him I don't know how to act around him. I am typically shy and have trouble talking with guys as it is.
My girl friend seems to agree with backcheck... thinking that he might secretly like overweight girls.
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