Inexperienced at sex
Posted Wed May 03, 2017 03:55 PM
I'm 28. I have had sex once, just before I turned 27. It was an online hook up and it sucked. In the last few months I've been making a serious effort to get better at courting women. I've forced myself to approach more women and have seen an improvement.
The reason I'm asking is because I may end up going on a date pretty soon. I have no expectations that it will lead to sex, but if it does, at some point I'm going to have to tell her that I have as much experience as the average 18 year old. Probably not what she wants to hear, but I'm not going to bullshit her. Neither do I want to conceal the fact until we're in bed together (when it will be painfully obvious!).
I don't plan to make a big deal about this fact or start being apologetic about who I am. I just want to know if there's a tactful way of letting her know before we go back to one of our houses.
Posted Wed May 03, 2017 07:20 PM
Another idea is to find a kindly mom or divorcee who wants to enjoy teaching a young man the ropes.
This post has been edited by spud14: Wed May 03, 2017 07:21 PM
Posted Thu May 04, 2017 06:29 PM
First of all, what difference does your experience make? If you don't tell her, how will she know? If you're thinking she'll figure it out by your prowess, skill, or capability in bed (or lack thereof), that thought becomes self-fulfilling when it consumes your mind. You need to stay away from it.
Secondly, there are men out there who have been with dozens - and dozens - of women, and they're still lousy lovers. Experience with many partners doesn't make one better in the sack. What does is a genuine desire to please a partner to listen to her (or him), to do what excites them, and to think of your own wants and needs after theirs.
And lastly, guy, you've got a great body, and a handsome dick! Use what you have for her, and not for you, and you'll discover that you'll gain inspiration, confidence, skill, and along the way, you'll please yourself.
Posted Thu May 04, 2017 10:10 PM
Posted Sun May 07, 2017 05:58 AM
If your date really likes you after getting to know you over several dates then she's not going to find your inexperience a problem, if she even notices. It's up to you whether you mention it to her or not, I don't think it's necessary personally.
Posted Sun May 07, 2017 06:40 AM
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Posted Mon May 08, 2017 02:17 PM
Don't rush it, and if you're concerned about finishing quickly, consider spending some quality time going down on her, as a warm up, and maybe when you need some recovery time.
Posted Tue May 09, 2017 01:17 AM
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Posted Wed May 10, 2017 06:43 PM
My boyfriend found it an incredible turn-on that I had very little (like, only two or three occasions, and decades before I met him) anal experience with men. Fact is, he's so skilled and so magnificent, I really consider my loss of virginity that very special evening he barebacked me the first time. And of course, since that evening, our coupling has been quite frequent, and always bareback.
Posted Sat May 13, 2017 12:30 PM
Posted Thu May 18, 2017 03:19 PM
I've been texting a girl who's number I got at a party. Gonna ask her out I reckon.