Sex is great, but...
Posted Tue May 23, 2017 03:33 PM
With my current (Of 2.5years) partner I have had the (literally) pussy clenching orgasms that I have NEVER had before being with him.
But recently they aren't coming any more!!
I have put on weight (soooo not as comfortable in myself as I was) but on top of that I have had a miscarriage, we are both working away from home so apart 4 nights of the week.
I still always want sex with him, always get turned on, but I don't manage the big O.
Give me a vibrator against my clit and it can happen in seconds if I am turned on enough.
Has anyone any tips? Is it just an insecurity thing or could it be more?
I love him to bits, never have or have thought of cheating and either has he. I have no problem getting in the mood for it, just finishing!!
Posted Tue May 23, 2017 08:55 PM
Posted Wed May 24, 2017 12:40 AM
Posted Wed May 24, 2017 07:51 AM
Also, the more you concentrate on not having that 'big' orgasm, you are putting excessive stress on your mind and body. This too will make having orgasms of any kind more and more difficult. You have to relax.I would suggest a glass or two of wine and a nice warm bath before getting to it (alone or with your partner), get your body and mind nice and relaxed.
Another thing is, TALK TO YOUR PARTNER! Communication is another big thing. Many many women are psychological creatures, and need to feel not only physically connected but mentally connected. He could sense something is off and not sure how to approach it either. But if you open up and communicate, you will probably find yourself relaxing more and able to achieve those things.
Posted Thu May 25, 2017 10:38 PM
I think you guys need to take the foot out the gas hit the breaks..... go for a short vacation and try to reconnect to each other.
That will help you balance you hormones, spirit, mojo, rest your body, and bring the romance back.....
Sometimes people in general are so occupied with their carrier that they forget their own life....
Wife and I had a bumpy road for very similar circumstances and got to the point that we were two strangers to each other.... and very close friend suggested that to us.... and that helped us a lot...
Posted Fri May 26, 2017 07:24 AM
Sorry to hear of your loss. Coming from a guy so I'm no expert but I have to say this is sound advice and I agree 100% here.
Posted Tue May 30, 2017 07:16 AM
Thanks for all your replies, sorry I haven't been on to respond before now!
My miscarriage was fairly recent - but the issue was around before that. Thinking about it, it was probably the point where I had become pregnant I just didn't know it at the time!!
It is kinda shit being away from each other but we are both in construction and unfortunately that isn't something we can easily change!! We did however have a random night last week where I was closer than normal to where he is working and we met up half way. When things got down to it I was waiting, and waiting for the big-o to come but it didn't!!
The reason I worry about talking to him about this is that he is self conscious as it is, if I was to now turn around and tell him this then I know it would knock his confidence more and then that has an effect on his performance, it is a vicious cycle.
To the comment about trying new things, in the time we have been together we have tried ALOT of new things, to the point where I find we are running out of ideas, but more ideas would be greatly appreciated!
We are due to go on a weekend soon for my birthday so I will be trying to relax as much as possible then - we are going back to the place where we first met so maybe it will happen then!
Posted Tue Jun 06, 2017 06:42 PM