Is cybersex cheating?
Posted Mon Aug 07, 2017 01:50 PM
I don't understand the "why," so if someone could help explain maybe? I do everything in the bedroom he likes. We dress up, we role play, we tie each other up, spank, fuck, suck, all of it. I have no doubt he enjoys it. He also knows me well enough to know what a freak I am and would enjoy being on an awesome site like this together. So why would he keep this from me? He says he thought because it is an anonymous site and no one knows who he is, so it was "ok" for no one to know about it, including his partner. He knows now how hurtful it's been to reveal this secret.
So...I want to know from the users on the site....If your partner did this to you and you saw all the beautiful nastiness on this site they had a part in and left you out of....would this be cheating to you? It certainly feels like it to me and I don't know what to do now. I've read article after article on cyber cheating and my head is full of confusion, so any advice is appreciated!
Posted Mon Aug 07, 2017 02:31 PM
Posted Mon Aug 07, 2017 02:38 PM
Posted Mon Aug 07, 2017 02:44 PM
Thank you for your comment. Very insightful. It's been basically an ongoing conversation since I found out about it. Today I asked him to please think about commitment and what it means to him and that we need to address it as soon as possible. I didn't think I needed to ever have that conversation with him since I'm so open about all sexual things. Yes, I am hurt. It's not the content I read that I can't get over. It's the discretion and hiding that I'm having a hard time with. I've done what you suggested and asked why he did it. He says it was purely just for fun and that he didn't think it through or consider if it might not be fair or respectful of the relationship. He says he does understand now that it was a betrayal of trust. When I asked him if our fun wasn't enough for him, his face changed and he said quite sincerely that is NOT the case. I actually believe him. I love him and want to work through this. It's just a VERY difficult and confusing situation. May I ask how your spouse reacted to you being on the site? Was it something she found out about or was it something you told her you were going to do?
Posted Mon Aug 07, 2017 02:46 PM
Quan Marco, I fully believe in sites like this. I said it in my post that I think it's a great site. I'm so happy to read you and your wife are 17 years strong and I do think this is a fantastic place to share different sides of yourself. What feels sleazy about it is that I was kept in the dark. That's what feels like a betrayal.
Posted Mon Aug 07, 2017 02:56 PM
This post has been edited by Voracious Vixen: Mon Aug 07, 2017 02:57 PM
Posted Mon Aug 07, 2017 05:02 PM
Posted Mon Aug 07, 2017 09:56 PM
Cheating : In terms of relationships : Doing or giving anything your spouse/partner would consider to be exclusive unto them
within the relationship . In any shape , form , or fashion . Physical or emotional . So I guess the definition might vary from person to person .
Posted Tue Aug 08, 2017 02:23 PM