What do you do when your partner no longer desires or cant have sex?
Posted Wed Dec 13, 2017 09:04 AM
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Posted Fri Dec 15, 2017 01:26 AM
While I get that some people completely lose their desire for sex, many people do not. In most cases it seems the person that no longer wants or is willing (or able) to engage in sex expects their partner to accept it without issue. They don't engage in sex with their partner, but they don't want them to get it elsewhere either. In fact, they would feel betrayed, hurt, and possibly that the relationship is over.
Love is love. But simply expecting a partner to give up on sex, often by just ignoring the topic, because one is simply done with it themselves is another story. That's the hard part for me to comprehend.
If one can't separate the physical and emotional elements, then why do they ignore the emotional side of their partner when not engaging in the physical side with them?
In my personal situation it is not as clear cut as no more sex. My wife has very little interest in sex, but not zero. She occasionally wants it or is willing to go along. Whenever it happens it is with little effort from her though and meant to either get one or both of us off as quickly as possible to be done with it. While I get FAR LESS than I want, it's not quite zero. But allowing me to get some action elsewhere is totally out of the question for her too. She isn't physically into sex herself, but feels that if I had it with another it would betray her emotionally.
Posted Fri Dec 15, 2017 09:47 AM
An open marraige that would let me have sex with another woman is not ok in her book. If I needed a bj so bad that I would let our gay friend do it,no problem with her.