LF Advice on my husband wanting a 3Some FFM
Posted Tue Mar 27, 2018 02:58 AM
I am confused and wonder if I should explore more things sexually with my husband. He often tells me that it would be totally up to me how far I went with things that if it’s only fooling around kissing and touching boobs for awhile with another chick then that’s all it would be and if I wanted more then it’s totally up to me…. I do find females attractive and I have fantasied a few times about touching, kissing, fingering and eventually going down on another female. But I have never been able to totally let all that out. My husband knows I like female on female porn the best and that I like boobs a lot. I always leave the I am not sure until I’m confronted with it on the fingering and going down on a female… honestly, I’ve never been that far. I am just scared to try things
Is my husband right that one day I might regret not exploring and having sex a bit more?
Some advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
Posted Tue Mar 27, 2018 05:55 AM
Posted Tue Mar 27, 2018 06:42 AM
I have been with another woman when I was married to my first husband. But he never knew about it. He had to do some county time. And my bestfriend lived across the street from me. We always spent a lot of time . My friend and I were in unhappy relationship. All I know she was at house one night and we ended up in my room kissing and feeling up on each other. Next thing I knew we were in my bed . We were having a very hot passionate sex . When she started to go done . I stopped her for some reason I got scared. I wish I would of yet her and I had gone down her.
My husband now would love for me to be with another woman. He also has told me it's my call. on how it All goes down.But just don't know about him being with another women with me there . I also have my concerns if he pays all his attention to her and not me. That's my fear. So I told him he would have to watch and couldn't touch her or me. He would have to masturbate He agreed to it cause he loves to masturbate and he said watching me being with another woman would be hot hot turn on.
Posted Tue Mar 27, 2018 07:12 AM
My opinion only....do it and enjoy it!
Posted Tue Mar 27, 2018 10:11 AM
Posted Tue Mar 27, 2018 04:06 PM
As a guy who’s been “the third” in two different married-couple threesomes, I usually counsel married couples that are thinking about swinging that the moment another person enters your bedroom, a door opens on your marital relationship that will never truly close. I’m not saying it’s a good thing or a bad thing, it’s simply that on physical and emotional planes, you will see your spouse a bit differently.
I think the case of inviting another woman just to have contact and sex with you is a bit less worrisome than having a woman or another man join you both. If you and your husband establish the ground rules as you’ve stated - the woman is there for your enjoyment, and he will have no contact with her - presents the most benign of scenarios. But when the clothes come off, will everyone still keep their passions and lusts in check, and stick to the rules? That’s still something to be considered. Though he’s encouraging you to explore your sexuality, might he become jealous of the pleasures and intimacy another woman can offer you? Perhaps.
To turn to other examples, you might find it incredibly exciting and sexually arousing to watch your husband in bed with another woman, or another man. Or, to take the counterpoint you’ve already mentioned, you may instead feel jealousy watching him have sex with another woman, and thoughts might creep into your mind as you wonder if he’s enjoying sex with her more than he would with you. Certainly, all those emotions - thrill and worry alike - are completely natural to us as human beings. There is no right or wrong answer. Just so, you might get wildly turned on watching your husband have sex with another man; it’s just as possible, and entirely human, to discover that your perception of his masculinity, his virility, has diminished after seeing another man use your husband as a surrogate female.
If you do choose to say no, and forego new sexual experiences, might you regret it? Regret is another completely natural human emotion - regret for things we’ve done or didn’t do - so it’s quite likely you will. But that anticipation of regret over something not done must be weighed against the possibility that if the thing is done, it winds up not as pleasant as we might have wished it so.
“I think you’ll find that ‘having,’ is not so pleasing a thing after all as ‘wanting.’ It is not logical, but it is often true.” -Mr. Spock, Star Trek
I’m not trying to scare you away. I’m just wanting you to have your eyes open and your heart guarded.
Posted Tue Mar 27, 2018 08:29 PM
I've asked her to do it again and she says no. Which is awesome, totally fine. But in the last 6 months I've been asking her to tell me more about her fantasies. She doesn't typically share with me but I know she's thinking about something.
She finally told me that cheese been thinking about us with another woman. The details of her Fantasy have me having sex with this woman and her watching and vice versa. She also talks about kissing and touching her breast, to the point of going down on her.
Even after doing it, having her fantasize about it she doesn't want to do it again. She doesn't say why she's concerned and doesn't want to.
I'm ok with it - well sorta... I love the idea of doing it again! . Married 15 years. 3 children.
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Posted Wed Mar 28, 2018 04:08 AM
But I'm not the jealous type. She on the other hand is and doesn't like to share. So we have been to swingers clubs and watched. Enjoyed ourselves then fucked our brains out after we.got home.
We finally agreed on a don't ask don't tell but play safe policy for me and it works for us.
But don't do anything you are not comfortable with.
Posted Wed Mar 28, 2018 08:19 PM