How should I approach this...?
Posted Wed Feb 25, 2009 11:36 PM
There are three birthday parties for 3 different friends on Saturday. All will be headed to the clubs/bars in the late evening(after 11pm). All 3 are girls. 2 of the girls are friends with my ex(we're both friends with them(one is her roommate), but we've known both the same amount of time, but obviously they are going to be closer being girls). Undoubtedly all the parties will probably converge when the clubbing/bar hopping starts and I really do not want to run into my ex(have been trying my best to maintain no contact with her and have been doing well, been maybe a little over a month) and I especially don't want to run into her if she is with her new bf, even though I know she's dating someone I don't really know how I'd react/feel seeing them together and stuff.
I'm thinking that there are two, maybe three, scenarios that I'd be comfortable in 1) if I know she's not going to be there 2) if she's there but not with her bf 3) if she and her bf are there but my roommates come with me. 2 and 3 are really both dependent on my roommates being there as I'd be able to leave the club/bar and not wander around that area by myself. Or should I just stay away from the situation entirely?
The 2 birthday girls I know pretty well(1 is my close friends gf) and other than a few other girls, most of the other people will either be acquaintances/strangers to both of us, or will be my friends.
Posted Thu Feb 26, 2009 12:52 PM
Cut off all MY friends, just b/c she MIGHT be there from time to time? Thats a little extreme.
Its not a problem of seeing her, its I haven't seen her and her bf together, we broke up a little over 2 months ago, and I'm pretty sure it won't feel too good the first time I see them together.
This isn't an every time occurrence either. My friends don't really hang out with her or talk to her anymore, so its not really an every day occurrence.
And its not a thing where I am constantly thinking about her, this is the first time I've thought about her in over 3 weeks or so and only b/c I want to avoid unnecessary drama/stupidity that could occur when you mix alcohol with college kids.
Posted Thu Feb 26, 2009 01:06 PM
In short, be cool.
Posted Thu Feb 26, 2009 01:47 PM
Posted Fri Feb 27, 2009 02:00 AM
I know I'm being kinda dumb being angry, but after dating for a year and half I just thought she could have given me the respect of being open/honest and not letting me walk around like a complete fool for 2-3 months(maybe longer) thinking things are great, when she's mentally already left the relationship.
Screw it, I'm gonna go have a good time with my friends, party it up after an extremely long week, and enjoy the single life, no point worrying about this crap, not gonna help me completely move on and if I see her/them together I can fake politeness for a couple mins and then move on to talking to others.