Have you ever swapped partners?
Posted Thu Feb 26, 2009 02:23 PM
Posted Thu Feb 26, 2009 03:53 PM
Posted Thu Feb 26, 2009 04:05 PM
id be the same but its more jealously with me!!!
Posted Thu Feb 26, 2009 04:10 PM
Posted Thu Feb 26, 2009 04:45 PM
Posted Thu Feb 26, 2009 06:27 PM
Posted Thu Feb 26, 2009 09:29 PM
We both have agreed that any outside relations is strictly cheating and I also have no tolerence for that, I just want to make sure he's aware of everything involved. He enjoyed his previous experience with this couple, however, at the time he was single and it wasn't his wife who was involved. I have no concern over me wanting to be with the other man other than in this setting, I just don't want this to get weird. I guess I was just looking for another couple who have experienced this so I could gain a little knowledge from their experience.
Posted Fri Feb 27, 2009 01:11 AM
Posted Sat Feb 28, 2009 07:38 PM
Posted Sun Mar 01, 2009 12:30 PM
Posted Sun Mar 01, 2009 12:50 PM
I think maybe it might be different if you were just dating...but a marriage is a vow.
Posted Mon Mar 02, 2009 08:30 PM
you just have to evaluate how you feel about it all.
maybe instead of jumping into it, take smaller steps, like kissing, touching, and stuff, with everyone in the same room, or whatever, and see where the comfort level is.
Posted Thu Mar 05, 2009 12:38 PM
Nothing has ever changed... it's just sex. If there's feelings involved... that's different. Just go into it to have fun, have some fun, and be done!
Posted Thu Mar 05, 2009 02:32 PM
If you are posting here about your doubts, it's probably a bad idea. Intrigue isn't the same as desire.
Posted Sun Mar 08, 2009 03:57 PM
thats how me and my lady feel too lol i cant even stand it when other guys talk to her or are jsut eyeing her.i tend to get into alot of trouble with confronting guys about it lol
Posted Sun Mar 08, 2009 07:06 PM
Posted Mon Mar 09, 2009 09:27 PM
I've done threesomes many times and swapped partners. It won't hurt your relationship - it could just make it much stronger.
What makes relationships work is love and companionship - being good friends is a big plus.
Bored in the bedroom never helps.
Posted Tue Mar 10, 2009 10:14 AM
Wouldn't do them with my wife.
Posted Tue Mar 10, 2009 11:32 AM
What I am hearing from you is reservations and that is the problem I have with it for you. As you correctly point out, you will not be able to undo this EVER. Unless you are 100% on board, you should not do it and you are not there, not yet, and may never be. Asking the opinions of the forum is fine, for what it is worth, but everyone is different and every experience is different. You need to start by exploring this more fully with your partner. Understand why he wants to do it. Understand why you want to do it. IF you are both coming at this from a health, safe place then establish some ground rules. Do some role playing and see if you are both still comfortable with it.
From my personal perspective and bias, I fear that there may be some simple boredom here and a new partner would be exciting. If that were the case, I personally do not necessarily think this is a healthy solution and one that will help your relationship. Again if boredom was the problem and I believe that you must both honestly determine if it is, then I feel strongly that you must start by working on your monogamous relationship together and find ways to try and keep it exciting. Swapping is certainly one way to keep things exciting, but I would argue that it is the easy/quick fix for what could be a long term, much more complicated problem.
But, on the other hand, should you decide to do it, I think both you and your partner should take lots of pictures/videos and post it on SF (as they may be of assistance to us as we try to render advice to you in the future). Take care.
Posted Mon Apr 06, 2009 12:52 PM