are unequal relationships doomed to failure? (age difference+position of power)
Posted Thu Mar 05, 2009 08:43 AM
I realize that often, in relationships involving an older man and a younger woman, or a man in a position of power, it raises a lot of red flags. Is there any difference when a woman is in that position?
I feel like when I graduate soon, power won't be the main issue, as I'll probably have a higher-paying job (not that I don't think her job is valuable). But I'm still concerned about the age difference.
Our relationship has worked so far because of the difference in our maturity levels, not in spite of it--I share a youthful enthusiasm with her, she makes me a more responsible adult.
I'm just concerned that down the road that symbiotic nature won't exist anymore, and we'll just be annoyed by our differences.
Can relationships with an inherent and unchangeable inequality still work?
Posted Thu Mar 05, 2009 09:09 AM
Posted Thu Mar 05, 2009 05:20 PM
Posted Thu Mar 05, 2009 05:25 PM
Posted Thu Mar 05, 2009 08:38 PM
Women are usually emotionally about 2 years more mature than men of the same age. It might not be a problem right now but in 2 or 3 years time she might feel that you are not responsible enough for her or you might feel she's holding you back. So the success of this relationship will really depend on whether you will be mature enough for her or not.
My advice to you is to take it slow. Enjoy the sex because sex with an older woman is always great. Learn all from it that you can but do not commit yourself into a permanent reationship too soon. If both of you still want a permanent relationship after 2 years then by all means go for it.