Girl doesn't really respond
Posted Tue Mar 10, 2009 04:44 PM
The girl has had sex before, and is defininitely willing. I dont really know about her history.
We've now spent a several nights sleeping together, but not (really) had sex. When I try to start warming her up.... kissing her, kissing her nipples, rubbing her, playing around with a finger.... she never really responds. She never moans or starts moving around. I ask her if she likes what I'm doing, and she says yes, but it just doesnt seem like it. I don't really get the "I wanna fuck you" vibes that I'm expecting.
It could be that shes just a lot quieter or more tense than my last partner, and that weirds me out. I don't know what to do. I've been taking it slow, trying to make her comfortable, but it hasn't worked so far.
My only idea is maybe to have a couple drinks before we start playing around next time, just to relax a little bit.
Does anyone have any suggestions, or has anyone had a similar experience? The girl just doesnt really respond, and is not really agressive/confident in bed.
thanks for your help.
Posted Tue Mar 10, 2009 04:54 PM
I suggest you find out a little more about her past, or just mess around till you find something she REALLY enjoys.
Posted Tue Mar 10, 2009 10:43 PM
Posted Wed Mar 11, 2009 11:23 AM
my b/f will touch me and stuff and i am enjoying it but i dont move or moan or anything like that. whenever i think about moaning or like moving my body with his hand or mouth, it reminds me of p.or.n and how fake the whole process is. not to mention i get so embarrased when i do moan that i completely loose my concentration if i noticed that i moaned.
some people are not verbal or extremely obvious about what they are enjoying and theres nothing you can do about it.
if you are getting her off then it shouldnt matter...on the other hand if shes not getting off then maybe your just reallynot doing it for her and shes just saying it feels good because she doesnt want to hurt your feelings.