Posted Wed Mar 11, 2009 10:15 PM
okay. About 5 years ago, my aunt tries to set my uncle up with a neighbor. so we all go out to eat, and my uncle and the mother barely talk, the daughter and I hit it right off, and talk each other's ears off the whole night.
after that, i never saw her again, and for quite awhile, i would occasionally think about it all, and wonder what may have happened.
So about a week ago, we were all hanging out (the family) and my aunt says she wants to set me up with her. it took me a few minutes to remember who she was talking about cause it was so long ago. all i remembered was that we hit it off, and she was very pretty, in an elegant sort of way.
So, a few days later I get her number from my aunt, and we txt about enough to set up a date that saturday. now, keep in mind, i am extremely shy, and really not good at taking the initiative. but, it has been over a year since i've been out on a real date (im not counting the girl that was mindfucking me a few months ago, long story there), so i figure, FUCK IT, get something set up, and go DO IT.
fast forward a few days, and im driving out to her place, nervous as can be. i was actually shaking so bad at one point, i could hardly drive. at that point, i'm like WTF quit being a lil bitch, and i cranked the radio and rocked out, and calmed WAY down. got to her house, and rang the doorbell, and i thought i was going to faint LMAO. when i got in, i was greeted with smiles, and a warm welcome, and all that shakiness melted away.
I dont have a problem talking under pressure, i always have something to say, but i will sometimes get tongue tied.
So, i have this really rediculous thing where when i am anxious or nervous, i get sick. like, my stomach contracts violently, and if i have eaten, or if i eat, it come back out in a bad way.
and it is very unpredictable, because it usually only happens when things are getting hot, but also occurs the first few times i will see someone/kiss someone, etc. etc.
so, best option is to not eat if i know im going out.
well, we wind up going out to eat (shit) so i explain my situation in the car ride on the way there. i ordered something, but barely (and i mean BARELY) touched it. kind of felt wierd, but oh well.
The date went awesomely, we were at the restaurant for at least 2 hours. We go to leave, and it starts POURING rain, so i offer to drive up and pick her up, and it completely surprised her, like she couldnt believe that someone would do such a thing......really no big deal tho, lol.
We head back to her house (still lives at home) we get there, and she asks me if i want to go in, and i say Of Course! (then a sarcastic NO, and she giggled) so we go in, and talk and joke for at least 2 more hours, then off to home i went.
somewhere throughout the course of the night, i find that her car has an oil leak, shouldnt be too big of a deal to fix, shops want 1200+ to fix it. i told her, buy the parts and ill fix it. (when i say her buy, i mean give me the $ cause we run a small shop and get parts at cost lol) Turns out, we have an empty lift tomorrow, so i can do it already. (empty lift days are rare, even with these tough times) so i figure ill do it now, even tho we havent even had a second date lol.
as i was saying byes and such, she beat me to the punch "we should do this again sometime" with a big smile. i reply, definitely, gave her a hug, and OTD i went.
I stopped at my aunts real quick to pick something up, they live right across the street. of course she saw my car over there, and immediately drilled me with Q and A.
SO, my questions being:
With that off stomach thing, should i not give it a whole lot of thought, and not worry about her thinking it's "wierd" ?
it really pisses me of, cause this only started happening after i started dating my last EX.
and, how often should i make contact with her? i try to say hi and such at least once a day, and ask her how her day was in the evening, but i dont want to seem too "clingy" by constantly txting her, but i do leave her alone a good portion of the day.
i also might add, she is 21, i'm 19.
I imagine vocal conversations are in the near future.
any additional tips would be great.....ive never been with someone older than me, or even within 2 years of my age, and i have been out of the whole swing for so long, i need a refresher course lol.
Posted Wed Mar 11, 2009 10:53 PM
could be stomach reflux, but i'd see a doc about it. maybe ha can give you something to take prior to those kinds of situations, like how motion sickness tablets work or whatever.
i wouldnt be bothered about the age. my uncle and his wife are 2.5 years apart and they are the model of a good relationship as far as i'm concerned. i reckon that i think age only matters in as much as she can't take you clubbing.
i think go for it bro sounds .like she's making you happy and vice versa.
Posted Wed Mar 11, 2009 11:08 PM
I wouldn't worry about it. Everyone has little things that ge them occasionally and if she likes you, which it sounds like she does then I wouldn't worry. You'll get over that nervousness soon enough and fall into a comfort zone with her which will see the end of that nervousness.
FTR, Everyone gets nervous. We just display it differently.
Posted Sat Mar 14, 2009 12:34 AM
same thing happened when i left, she jumped me again for a kiss!
its great, because i SUCK at making a first move like that, its just totally different cause noone else has ever done that.
so next week, were going to the movies!
Posted Mon Mar 16, 2009 09:54 PM
no, she didnt see my car, cause i rode with my other aunt out there.
so, we wound up hanging out again at the drop of a hat.
she is definitely into me, i just dont know how long i should wait to "ask her out"
Posted Tue Mar 17, 2009 05:53 AM
Posted Tue Mar 31, 2009 01:09 AM
Take things easy.. don't let that nervousness get to you!
Posted Tue Mar 31, 2009 01:27 AM
It sound like you two like each other alot... have fun
Posted Sat Apr 04, 2009 01:17 AM
hard to explain, its just a big fucking PITA
and yes, things are going great
Posted Sun May 10, 2009 11:43 PM
things going well, shes a sweetheart.
also a virgin, i knew this long before she told me, she just has that uptight "virgin attitude". doesnt bother me, except for the occasional uptightness, and worrying about small, goofy things lol.
shes adorable though, and quite pretty as well.
Posted Mon May 11, 2009 01:06 PM
Posted Tue May 12, 2009 11:25 PM
i try to when people present situations i think i can help with.
as for meeting new people and asking them out, im a N00B! lol