My girl has lost her sex drive...
Posted Fri Mar 20, 2009 08:53 PM
My girl used to love sex and really enjoy it with me, but we hit a few road blocks and we couldnt have sex for a while. in between long periods of not having sex (1month), when we could the sex was not as good any more and we both felt it.
now (fully over the road blocks) she she never gets the urges to have sex, but when she decides to "try sex" she gets into it and enjoys it. she always gets off and so do i, but its rare that she ever wants to have sex.
we have talked and neither of us are non the wiser we have tought that it could be because:
- she has been on bc for over 6months
- she is under high stress from a demanding job
- bad sex has put her off
- the road blocks stopped our momentum (they were quite early in the relationship)
we both love each other and the relationship is flourishing in every facet except in the bedroom. we are both a little upset about why her sex drive is gone.
what i am trying:
- i always try to tell her she is hot and let her know that i want her
- i try to give her kinky ideas and random notes
- i have been trying to make sex more exciting for her
firstly any advice on things I/we could do? can anyone else share some stories? perhaps happy endings??????
Posted Fri Mar 20, 2009 09:39 PM
If you feel she is worth it and you really love her it will be easy for you and if she loves you and really wants to be with you it should work. If not there will always hookers.
Posted Fri Mar 20, 2009 09:43 PM
The Good News is... Doctors can help her work through her issues but she must be willing to work on it.
I suggest she seek some professional help... Otherwise, you will both be miserable.
Posted Sun Mar 22, 2009 02:02 AM
Posted Sun Mar 22, 2009 05:14 AM
Another issue is the problems of the past that she cannot get over. Any kind of mistrust can do it.
Women can also develop different sleeping habits where they avoid going to bed or cannot sleep worrying about the above type issues.
Women are wonderful, delicate creatures and need a special type of love and understanding so you have your work cut out for you. Sometimes simply talking quietly with her (not in the bedroom) can work wonders. Keep the word sex out of it.
Posted Thu Mar 26, 2009 03:28 PM
well we have a great relationship other than sex, we get along well and i try to make her feel special every day. i try to do lots of nice things for her, she knows it and tells me how much she loves me for it.
the problem is that sex for us has never quite worked...she was gettin random periods when she was starting with BC, then we had some other issues, then 4 months apart...
now that we have time together i cant stop thinking about her and i really do want sex with her all the time...she on the other hand does not. i try to pick my moments and try not to hassle her about sex and i am very understanding of the whole situation.
however, she is getting frustrated herself about not being able to get turned on and having to turn me down, it is making her anxious and upset. it is making sex this whole other thing, rather than just fun and lovemaking.
it seems like the more i want sex the less she does...because everytime she has to think about turning me down it upsets her.
Posted Thu Mar 26, 2009 05:25 PM
She had alot of negative effects from the BC