Posted Sun Mar 22, 2009 06:46 PM
Background : Me and my girl have been going out for a while now and when she comes over I like to mess around... a lot. She likes to tease me and watch me squirm in pleasure without my pants being on. I like to do the same. But eventually I get to the point when her pants come off and I'm fingering her. This is where the problem arises.
I haven't been able to get her off ever because of this. She makes me stop. Now, the reason why isn't because she can't handle it anymore and wants to cum, but because she says it starts to hurt. Now, my girl is a virgin, so you can imagine she is very tight, and when I finger her I can feel how tight she really is. But she says that when I finger her, after about 10 minutes it begins to chafe and hurt. She says it hurts for a little while as long as she is wet. But this recently has begun to annoy both of us. We both want the same thing. We both want her to cum, but she can't because I have to stop.
We talked about it and we figured I just need to cut my nails shorter and maybe file them down, but I think it might be a bit more than that. So on that note:
Has this ever happened to you? If so, how did you deal with it? If it hasn't happened to you, any ideas? Any info is appreciated
Posted Sun Mar 22, 2009 08:02 PM
Posted Sun Mar 22, 2009 08:27 PM
Geez LTJ, just listen to yourself... I don't know how many women would get off when they're hurting, but for sure I know I couldn't. It just makes me go back in time and feel thankful that the guy I lost my virginity to wasn't experimenting on me that way. He just had me wet and went in a little, then on a different day he'll go in a little further and so on, and I mean with his penis. He made me have my first orgasm without clitoral stimulation in just a few sessions, but of course, he approach was 180 degrees opposite to yours... more on the pleasure side rather than pain.
Just stop the fingering and back up a bit, you're simply not doing it right, that's all. Cutting your nails won't solve the problem at all. All these talk about hair pulling and playing it rough sounds a little misguided to me. You can see that in BDSM porno, but you need a certain progression to get there.
Why do you need to get her off by fingering? Can't you try some oral instead?
Posted Sun Mar 22, 2009 08:28 PM
Posted Mon Mar 23, 2009 07:52 PM