Straight, Bi Or Gay?
Posted Wed Apr 08, 2009 08:24 AM
before we started dating, we confided in eachother about things that we would never imagine telling anyone else. and one of the things that he told me was that he was bi-curious. so i told him i would set him up with one of my gay friends to give him the experience... he backed out. so then i took him to the sex shop and he bought a few anal toys. and lastly, he actually found someone who he wanted to experience with and was emailing him back and forth... the whole time this was going on, he had a gf.
so. after him and the girl broke up, we started fucking... and eventually he was calling me his gf.
well... 3 days ago i went to his house and got on his computer. i looked on the ground and his pants were on the floor... they had obviously been taken off so he could masterbate. i mean be for real. im human. i know whats up.
so i proceeded to look at the history on his computer. (i already know it was wrong to look at his history. you dont have to tell me.) ALL of it was gay porn. ALL of it. no pussy. no tits. nothing. only guys giving head and anal.
i went into complete shock and immediately confronted him about it. he swears up and down that hes not gay. its just something he was getting off to. he only likes it when he's horny. he could never actually do it... so he says. but my question is, if all this is true, why were there no girls? why only guys?
so lastly. tonight i was looking around and found a post where he had actually written about an experience giving another guy head. in detail. he has told me that he would NEVER EVER do it. EVER. and it pisses him off really bad when i call him gay. but thats what it looks like to me. especially now.
so. im a little worried. if he is gay, fine. i would accept him. if he's bi, cool. im bi too. its whatever. but i just want him to be honest.
now recently he has told me that he COULD be bi... but he doesnt think he is because the thought of other guys disgusts him except for when he is masterbating. can that even be true?
i dont want to sound like a hypocrite or anything but i really just want him to tell me the truth. if im going to be in a relationship with the guy, how am i going to trust him if he cant even be honest with me?
another thing is that he IS younger than me. im 21 and hes 18. could he just be going through a phase? do all guys go through it?
is he scared of losing me? is he scared of what people will think? or is he really just straight and just looking for a new experience? is it possible for him to actually be straight and be turned on by guys?
please help. this is a very weird situation that i never pictured myself in.
any help will be MUCH appreciated. thanks!
Posted Wed Apr 08, 2009 08:40 AM
You're both fairly young, I don't think 3 years is an age difference at all, and he's probably trying to define himself... that's already a bit of a task without you putting pressure on him telling you things that he may not know yet. Just relax and give him some space, let him know that you'll be fine with whatever he feels comfortable with.
Posted Wed Apr 08, 2009 09:13 AM
Posted Wed Apr 08, 2009 02:49 PM
coming to terms with being attracted to the same sex can take people a long time, sometimes many years. Some people never come to terms with it.
Be his friend. ...and consider yourself lucky that he's even talking to you, after infringing on his privacy.
Posted Wed Apr 08, 2009 02:53 PM
Posted Wed Apr 08, 2009 03:30 PM
i was actually thinking the same thing.
and ive tried to break things off... he just says that he cannot be my friend after being with me.
i just want to do whats right. i dont want to abandon him but i also want to look out for myself.
Posted Wed Apr 08, 2009 05:32 PM
Bi focal said:
Bi focal, can you elaborate please... not that I want to refute you, but I'm curious about the reasons... just for my own understanding. Thanks.
Posted Thu Apr 09, 2009 04:26 PM
I know a lot of guys who have either had sex, oral or have wanted to with a guy. It is a common fantasy among guys. Most told me they would never kiss or get romantic with a guy but when horny they are all for blowing a guy. A lot however would never go through with it and would only get off to it. I also know guys who wont look at female porn when they have a boyfriend because they feel like that is cheating....
I was in 10th grade dating a senior when I first came in contact with the whole same sex world. I found out through a mutual friend that he had hooked up with a guy from another town several times. I didn't mind but I told him he needed to be honest.
Bisexuality is nothing to break up with over. I know a lot of people who are and are in committed and happy relationships. Hell, I am bi, and I have been serious with a guy while still being into girls.
Posted Thu Apr 23, 2009 12:51 AM
Posted Sun Apr 26, 2009 04:34 AM
Posted Sat May 09, 2009 05:45 PM
I was seeing a guy last year and he mentioned sucking dick just to see how it felt to have one in his mouth. I didnt think he ws serious so I said go head but I want to be there. A couple weeks later we meet this guy, I thought it was a random meeting but found out they knew each other and decided to "experiment". They let me watch, and honestly, it turned me on to watch 2 guys experience first time gay blowjobs. It started happening more often, they always let me be there and eventually had a 3-some. Then it was, "I wonder what a dick in my ass feels like". So they tried that too. We started having more 3-somes then just him and I sex. Each time they spent more time on each ohter. It took me awhile but I finally got it and stepped out of the picture. Far as I know they are still together.