Posted Mon May 04, 2009 06:02 AM
Now on the topic... I am in relationship with my girlfriend for 5 years. We are same age - 22. We were both virgins and first sex (penetration) we had 3 and half years ago. Sex improved quite a lot for that time and I must admit that in general I am satisfied - with frequency and "quality" of sex (although certain innovations would not hurt:)).
Now the problem - maybe a little bit over half a year ago I noticed that my girlfriend is stimulating her clit necessarily before reaching orgasm. Basically, she cumms because of that stimulation, not because of me. I talked to her and she said to me that she watched/read somewhere that not many women reach "vaginal" orgasm, so she had stimulate her clit in order to reach it (practically, she explains that there are 2 types of orgasms) and that she never cummed "vaginally". It was quite shocking for me, since I see it as my personal failure as a lover. I am not sure when that started. We've tried few times without stimulation, but without positive result.
I am curious now - how much truth is in her explanation? Am I doing something wrong and what can I do to make her cumm vaginally?
Posted Mon May 04, 2009 10:36 AM
Posted Mon May 04, 2009 10:41 AM
every single time we have sex I give first an oral to my wife, so her clit is always hot before we start 'intercourse' (lol)
Posted Mon May 04, 2009 10:43 AM
Posted Mon May 04, 2009 12:56 PM
Posted Mon May 04, 2009 04:01 PM
If you want to feel more involved in her orgasm, stimulate her clit or nipples while you're thrusting inside her. That second type of sensation may bring her to orgasm. You also can try using a vibrator. Hold it against her clit while you're inside her. That way you'll be providing the extra stimulation she needs to climax.
Kinky_honey_77 is right when she says that there are more nerves in her clit than anywhere else down there. By comparison, you rubbing her clit is the female equivalent of her stroking your cock.
Posted Mon May 04, 2009 04:59 PM
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Posted Thu May 07, 2009 04:11 PM
i dont mind that she usually cums 2-3 times when we fuck, just seems weird thatdont like when i play with her u would think she would..
Posted Fri May 29, 2009 08:52 AM
She is still young and exploring. Men know how they cum best too and aren't afraid to do it. Women should get that chance also.
When a woman wants to cum badly, don't give her orders and let her cum naturally. More women would be interested in sex if allowed this. Concentraion helps.
Having orgasms keeps me wanting sex.