Pressured to Commit...
Posted Sun May 17, 2009 09:06 PM
It started out last night, I found out that my sister and her boyfriends were throwing a party and that my other sisters and cousins were going and bringing their boyfriends. I talked with my other sisters and they said to text my sister Jen, the one throwing the party, about if I could come.
So I text jen saying, hey, you, and so and so are throwing a party tonight? Can I tag along?
She promptly tells me, "Well, Steven (Her boyfriend) is bringing some of his friends, and it's going to be all couples, you would be the only single one, is that ok?"
I tell her, "Yeah, it's fine, I don't mind"
she then responds, "Well, can you bring a girl?"
I say, "Well... my friends recently got sick or are stuck home doing projects"
So she tells me, "Well... maybe next week then, bring a girl and we'll throw another party"
Well, what I basically got from this is that since I do not have a girlfriend I am no longer allowed to hang out with my own sister... I honestly find this absolutely offensive and a complete asshole move on her and/or her boyfriends part. That is my family right there and just because I don't have a girlfriend I'm no longer allowed to see them?
Well, from here on I felt kinda pressured into getting a girlfriend. And to say the very least, I am not like my sisters. I am a goody two shoes type of honors student kid, while when they were in high school.... they were part of that clique of hot girls who smoked cigarettes in the restrooms.
Now, I feel as though I am stuck between a rock and a hard place now. I'm pressured to get a girlfriend or to commit to a girl from even my own family! They might say that they "want whats best for me" but in all honestly, if they did, they would leave it alone and let me get a new girlfriend when I'm good and ready.
But with that, I end my rant and ask you this: What should I do? My group of friends in somewhat constricted so I usually hang out with my family... but since that no longer is an option, I am kind of stuck home... Should I give into their demands? Should i find someone THEY approve of? I'm somewhat repeating myself now so I will stop.
Any tips appreciated, thank you
Posted Sun May 17, 2009 09:16 PM
I'd ditch the party in a heartbeat and never try to get invited agian, if things are like you describe them.
I would NEVER get a boyfriend just for a party, it is offensive to me and to the person I'd be with.
Posted Mon May 18, 2009 02:20 AM
Posted Mon May 18, 2009 02:43 AM
Posted Mon May 18, 2009 01:44 PM
B A said:
That. Is perfect. I would say do that. Absolutely perfect advice. See how she feels about it then.
Posted Tue May 19, 2009 08:14 AM
Posted Tue May 19, 2009 06:45 PM
Posted Tue May 19, 2009 07:15 PM
I wouldn't care less.
If there were friends or family there, I'd feel in place.
Posted Wed May 20, 2009 09:42 PM
hehe, well... not always that easy, now is it?
Posted Thu May 21, 2009 03:28 PM
As for a girlfriend, I don't think you should get one to go to a party... the criteria should be to find someone you like being with.