Before a girl is attracted to a guy, what is the first thing they notice?
Posted Tue Jun 09, 2009 09:06 AM
Maybe that's not the best thread title
I am told by my family, their friends, my own friends that I am a good looking guy. I would say I am fairly good looking. I am a tall, dark handsome man, broad shoulders, dark piercing eyes. Friends have told me I should go and do some fashion modeling but I am not really into that. Anyway none of these people have seen me naked. So there impression of me is only from a look at my face, my body language, how I carry myself, how I talk etc etc. I sometimes think what would there impression of me be when I am by the pool in just my trunks, or if I was naked in bed with a woman. I am shy naked, I sleep in my boxers at night, but feel if I was with a woman naked for long I would get all shy. From a girls perspective am I just being silly? When you first look at someone say in a pub, bar, club and out and about anywhere else, are you attracted by their face or is it more to that?
Sometimes I think if only these women saw my penis they would be so excited as I am very well endowed. But it's not like you can flash your penis out and about.
Posted Tue Jun 09, 2009 10:02 AM
Posted Tue Jun 09, 2009 10:14 AM
Posted Tue Jun 09, 2009 11:11 AM
I am an extremely shy person myself, and am not well endowed. Its average size. You would possibly attract women that are only looking for sex if you just pulled your penis out everywhere. I believe theyre called "hoodrats".. A respectable woman isnt gonna be attracted to you just because you have a big dick, at least i dont believe so. Maybe some of these women can confirm that. You need to have the whole package. From the sounds of it you have the looks. Just gotta work up that courage and be able to carry on a good conversation.
Being shy isnt necessarily a bad thing either. Ive had women be more interested in me because i wasnt the one pursuing them (if im with a group of people). something about a mysterious factor im guessing. I always get over being shy by just telling myself that if this person find me boring or anything of that sort, then i will just say have a good night and walk away. No harm no foul. Maybe that will help you. Not every woman will find you attractive, no matter how good you may look and feel. Every woman has certain tastes, you just need to find one that likes your taste...
Posted Tue Jun 09, 2009 04:46 PM
Posted Wed Jun 10, 2009 11:55 AM
Now this doesnt usually say anything about your personality, but it can. You will always see those guys sitting around with their hands clenched and eyes looking like they are pissed off. Ive asked women (good friends) when we are in a bar or club who they are most attracted to. I know their types, so thats not why i ask. I will see what differentiates which man they are most attracted to. Almost always they choose a man that is their type, but has kind eyes and a nice smile. It seems to be a combination of physical looks coupled with their attitude. We notice these things without even noticing them. If you go somewhere, and your friend is upset, you will usually be upset yourself. We look for people that will make us happier. And all u have to go off in a situation like a bar or club is their initial looks.
Now where it goes wrong is the guy with the kind eyes, nice smile, and good intentions, is the guy that may have less confidence then the other guy at the end of the bar who looks like he's about to decapitate an entire village. He'll walk up and strike up a conversation. He is good looking, but is more probably to be an a-hole after the initial sweet guy routine.
Sorry about the long post, i get really sidetracked with my theories and experiences. Ive actually been through a lot of it and done various psychological studies regarding human behavior. Human behavior interests me.
But to shorten everything up. Just be confident. Your friends say youre good looking. you think youre good looking. hey..youre probably good looking. So just go out there, be a good guy, be able to hold a conversation, and you'll be just fine. Dont worry how you look naked, as someone said, the other person is probably worried about the same thing.