Thought I was in love now I'm confused (very long)
Posted Sat Jun 20, 2009 07:52 PM
After that night he called like it had never happened. He said he didn't remember any of it. when I told him he tried to use his drunkenness as an excuse. I told him that he could not use it as an excuse anymore. That him getting physical with me was the last straw. he apologized and said he loved me and that he just wanted me to forget it had happened. I told him there was no way I could ever forget the way he treated me.
He's been calling everyday and I know he can tell things are not the way they used to be between us. I told him that I didn't feel the same way about him anymore. he was someone I thought I was in love with but after that night I've seen him in a light that I can't get out of my head. I don't want to talk to him I don't want anything more to do with him really. I still talk to him on the phone cause I know that he needs me as he is going through some things in his life. But honestly I just feel annoyed whenever he calls.
We dated for a year and I really just don't know how I feel. When he tells me he loves me I say it back cause I don't know If I do or don't. But the more I say it the more I'm not believing it and the more I feel guilty. I don't want to be removed from his life but I no longer want any kind of relationship. It's all very confusing for me.
Posted Sat Jun 20, 2009 11:00 PM
Well I talked to him and told him I don't think I love him anymore. He promised he'd stop drinking since it made him crazy. I told him I'm not ready to be around him and that I want some space to think about things.
Posted Sun Jun 21, 2009 02:58 AM
but i hope all the best for you i'll b here to lend a ear if you feel like talking..
Posted Sun Jun 21, 2009 08:54 AM
Posted Thu Jun 25, 2009 09:47 AM
I would stop saying I love you, especially if you don't mean it, but the more you it, the more he thinks it. I had a similar situation, and I stopped saying it, and she called me on it, but I stuck to.
And it sounds like to me he crossed the line with his actions, time to move on!
Posted Thu Jun 25, 2009 09:56 AM
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Posted Thu Jun 25, 2009 10:33 AM
Wish you the best!
Posted Thu Jun 25, 2009 01:15 PM
Posted Fri Jun 26, 2009 08:20 AM
I wish you well...
Posted Fri Jun 26, 2009 04:57 PM
Sounds like you definitely did the right thing by breaking up with him, and cutting things off. It doesn't sound like he respected you.
Posted Sun Jun 28, 2009 10:38 AM
Posted Sun Jun 28, 2009 02:44 PM
Posted Sun Jun 28, 2009 09:50 PM
Also if this behavior is a result of drinking and he still decided's to continue to drink heavily even though he knows that it causes you pain then he is a jerk and needs to get his priorities in order
Posted Sun Jun 28, 2009 10:54 PM
Posted Thu Jul 02, 2009 05:41 PM
There are a couple of things I won't tolerate in a relationship at all. One of those things is cheating. If a guy cheated on me, I'd leave without even allowing a discussion about it, and I wouldn't look back. I also would never tolerate an abusive guy.
That being said... I'm not you. You should take some time to clear your head. Make a list of positive reasons to stay with this person and negative reasons to end the relationship. Take the alone time to think about the good and the bad of your relationship. See how he acts over the next few weeks. If he's usually fine when he's not drunk, you may want to consider staying with him as long as you have an agreement that he won't get drunk. If his behavior is the same whether he's drunk or not, you might want to end it.
If he's an abusive man, get out while you can. He could probably really hurt you if he wanted to. Do everything you can to protect yourself.