woman, inner lip issue, please help!!!
Posted Tue Jun 23, 2009 07:14 PM
I am currently pregnant right now with our second child. Do you think the doctor will fix my up down there and make things right again after I give birth? Or, do you have any suggestions for my problem? Anything will help. I know about the reconstructive surgery, but sure as heck can not afford it. Thank you for any help with this matter.
Posted Tue Jun 23, 2009 07:37 PM
Posted Tue Jun 23, 2009 10:43 PM
Posted Sat Jun 27, 2009 03:41 PM
I do have asymmetrical inner lips and a bit of a "fat" pussy myself, very different from the norm established by the p_orn industry; however, I've never felt deformed in that regard. I think a woman body goes through very dramatic changes during and after pregnancy and many times we're left with an incongruent vision between what our body looks and how we expect it to look like. I delivered my children through c-sections, and this caused me some angst about my body. The doctors had to cut my tummy on four different ocassions, for some reason I ended up with complications so recovery was rather long and frustrating. I was married at the time and I rationalized those scars as something that belonged to both my then husband and me. Of course, we later split and the scars kept me away from dating or meeting other men for a number of years. Now, I've gathered enough courage to start going out, and the way I feel about my scars is that it shouldn't be me the one who should have problems with them, so I make the point of telling straight forwardly from the start to avoid embarrassing situations. Believe it or not, to date I haven't found anyone who's frown on that detail, and it's not that end up hitting the sack with every person I mention this to, but I don't see the point in continuing talking to someone who's going to feel horror at the sight.
I completely understand your feelings though, and what I would suggest is that you see a therapist as well who'd help you accepting scars as events in your life and not as deformities. I'm not saying that you should rule out reconstructive surgery, but I can see how that could help you before making the decision.
Posted Sat Jun 27, 2009 08:28 PM
Posted Sun Jun 28, 2009 03:14 AM
Posted Sun Jun 28, 2009 05:06 PM
I have legitimate fears about my lip(s) tearing during childbirth, after watching a show on Discovery Health channel.
I would discuss your concerns with a doctor, come up with at least enough money for a consultation. If the lip that was messed with is the one causing you issues, and you SINCERELY thing that it is due to the doctors student doing the procedure, I would go back to that doctor and say just that. There's a chance that if you handle this the right way, you could manage to get the "fix" at no cost to you, possibly even during your upcoming delivery - if you happen to use the same doctor. Provided it is something that CAN be fixed.
I know nothing about the legal side of things, but it seems logical that if it's that much of an issue to you and causes pain, you should be able to get it fixed.