his low sex drive
Posted Sat Jun 27, 2009 01:49 AM
I am currently experiencing some sexual frustration and I don't know how to deal with this. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 8 months and it seems to me that I'm not getting sex enough. I get horny when I'm around him, but he doesn't sense it (I guess), and I end up having to hold back from touching him. I think he might have a much lower sex drive than I have, and I'm pretty surprised since guys usually think they need sex all the time....right now I'm the one that feels like a sex beast...
With my ex I used to not have to masturbate, or hardly, because we'd do it every day or every other day. Now I have those urges to touch myself. I go to the bathroom sometimes when I'm at work, to get myself off a couple times. Then it happened that I had to masturbate when he fell asleep right next to me. We have sex about twice a week, somtimes 3 times...
Do people still masturbate a lot when they are in a relationship? I thought it would not be necessary if you get satisfied enough with a partner.
The thing is that I love having sex with him. He really knows how to satisfy me and I've rarelly been this comfortable with a man. He makes me orgasm very easily, on average I get 2-3 before his. He feels incredibly good when he is inside me and he's so good at eating me out. I enjoy it so much, it makes me crave for more...
what should I do? should I mention the problem to him? I'm scared that he will be offended and that I will hurt his virility. Should I just be satisfied with what I have and just compensate by touching myself every so often? sometimes I find it nice to be really be sex craved by the time we fuck each other, but I'm worried that I might be frustrated in the long run, and start looking elsewhere...
I would greatly appreciate some adive.
Posted Sat Jun 27, 2009 02:06 AM
It may be that he feels that you are not wanting sex all the time so he doesn't try to force the issue. Take control and show him how much you want him. Most, if not all, guys love being taken control of.
As far as masturbating while in a relationship, I see absolutely no problem in it, unless it is affecting your sex life. But we all have needs and sometimes the other person is not there to satisfy them. Finding out that my wife was masturbating is an extreme turn on for myself. So I would say dont hide it from him, tell him about it. The more descriptive you are the more he will like it.
If you don't talk about it with him now, it will become a problem later. Just be upfront and honest with him, at the very least you won't have to hide it from him, but my guess would be he will be pleasing you more often.
Posted Sat Jun 27, 2009 02:17 AM
Posted Sat Jun 27, 2009 05:02 AM
Also, you may need to try new ideas to freshen it up.
Here is just one....
Rather than describe this very important male stimulation in length and eat up space, do a google on redtube handjob specialist. It is a great training film for what I would guess most guys like and I think that is especially hot for a guy. To what degree you use it is up to you.
Psychological approach. Try this. Lights turned down low. Put a favorite mint or gum of his in your mouth so he remembers that smell. (He can even pick it out.) I prefer spearmint gum. Then you can say, "Tonight...(touching his upper thigh)....I want to try something different on you." Have him lean back and relax. No hands. Use lube. It hits just about every possible area for stimulation. You will rock his world. He cannot do it this good. Every time you touch his upper thigh from here on in, or just even have that mint, he will remember that incredible moment...he will never forget it. Use those mints/ gum ONLY when you want sex and at no other time. It is something about that smell that is a big turn on...WHEN associated with sexual excitement and good luvin'. If you do decide to try this, come back and let us know...cause we'd like to know that we helped..
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You go girl, Go ride your man. And if he don't like it there are many guys here that will...
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