gf no longer sexually attracted to me
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 09:49 AM
Me and my gf are 21 years old and have been dating for 10 months. When we first started dating there was a lot of intimacy and passion. About 4 months ago it all changed, she was no longer in the mood to do sexual things. Also around that time she started getting more stressed and feeling anxious a lot. In the past 4 months she has been having a number of panic attacks and says she is on edge almost all the time. She also says that part of her still wants to do sexual things, she says she thinks it will make her feel better, having that physical release. The other day we had a long talk about the subject matter, she told me that she no longer feels a sexual attraction toward me. She said that occasionally she is in the mood to do things with me, just not a lot, she also said that she occasionally looks at other people and wants to do things with them. We both love each other very much, she said she still loves me more than anything and that she still wants to be with me. I'm looking for any input on the matter, any suggestions to help bring the sexual attraction back.
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 12:07 PM
One day I told her to stay with me at a hotel but like always we couldn't because of her parents do we told me were goin to a club untill like 2am so we went yo tjis hotel n I got the biggest surprise. We got in the jacuzzi, we started foreplay n it led to it . She was amazing I saw her wd side for the first time we did over 7 times.
After that we talked about n from that talk I now know she was just bored of same stufg so now we do go to a hotel once in a while or try different stuff at home.
I say u should try that , one thing my girl loves and I know most girl do is to fill the bed with red roses and make love on it. Get some nice candle.
I hope this help u a bit.
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 01:17 PM
The healthiest thing you can do in my opinion is just realize that relationships develop through phases, and that you're probably passing from the phase of initial, crazy attraction into something more subdued and familiar. Sex can be just as passionate and wonderful, but while you and your girlfriend are growing and transitioning together just realize that it doesn't have to happen all the time like it once did.
If it's not as enjoyable as it was before, the last thing you want to do is wear each other out with mediocre sex... then she will really start to find the idea of making love with you undesirable.
Take a break (from sex) for a few days... maybe even a week or two. Try to learn new things about one another - it's easy to feel like you know everything about your partner after a few months, like there's no more mystery. Maybe you just need to refresh your perspective.
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