Men faking orgasms
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 01:30 PM
But, in the age of condoms, a man certainly has the ability to fake an orgasm unnoticed. I've done this on several occasions (typically slower, more intimate sex) in which the woman I was making love with at the time was having a fantastic time, but the angle/speed/whatever wasn't quite enough to push me to orgasm.
It could be that I'm self-conscious about going on too long. I dated a woman a couple years back that got chafed easily and since then I often "quit while I'm ahead" as it were, and stop shortly after it's apparent that my partner just came. I would much rather be considered a grade-A lover by my bed mates than always need to finish things off for myself. I typically don't have any problem having an orgasm, but from time to time, I have faked it.
Do any other men do this? Any women have opinions?
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 01:55 PM
But condom or not, I guess I don't understand how he can fake it when he's suppose to be getting off yet I can't feel him pulsating inside me as he does.
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 02:13 PM
I hear you, but the issue is not getting off. Arousal is something that happens quite naturally for me, and I can typically maintain an erection for a long time.
After I bring a woman to climax, however, it's pretty indistinguishable at that point who's fluids are who's and exactly what's happening in there - so, if I feel like it would be better to end the sex on a high note for her, I've done it before. Thus far it's been a strategy that's worked, because no one has ever questioned me as to whether or not I've come.
It's also worked out extremely well in that when I do fake an orgasm I'm ready to go again any time... and my girlfriend loves that!
And DarkEyes, I'm glad things are working out... I think sometimes it's better just to be the pleaser and not the pleasee... but certainly not always!
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 02:25 PM
CBG we can fake the pulsating
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 02:37 PM
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 02:38 PM
I think the fact that you don't climax every single time is a major feature of good lovers. I'd love the fact that a guy would be ready for another round as soon as I recover. No, I wouldn't mind that at all, although in my particular case, I wouldn't require faking. It would be just nice to know when you've come for real.
BTW, you reminded me of a Swede who once told me that he'd rather be called a bad lover than a bad driver... So funny...
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 02:43 PM
The two aren't the same, ejaculation and orgasm. I've had an orgasm before without ejaculating, usually after a long day of multiple ejaculations/orgasms. They usually are the same, and better if the same if you ask me, but not always.
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 02:53 PM
CBG we can fake the pulsating
Really?! I didn't know that...and you're right it's not a big deal. I'd rather him tell me than fake it.
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 02:58 PM
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 03:23 PM
Thanks 20shrouds, that's another thing I didn't know nor would I ever have guessed. I think I need to retake BIRDS & BEES 101.
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 03:27 PM
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 03:36 PM
At any rate, thank you for your input!
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 05:45 PM
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 07:23 PM
it kinda confuses me because i hear so much about guys getting blue balls.
so what do you do about that?
take care of it yourself later?
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 07:53 PM
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Posted Tue Jul 07, 2009 07:14 AM
As you get older, there will be times that you don't quite make it...just a fact of life...and "faking" it just isn't a good idea. Passing it off casually and verbally to her as just something that happens is better cause, if she knows, she will try harder with foreplay etc to make it better next time. It gives her a good feeling mentally to achieve success the next time and will bond you two together more.
Posted Tue Jul 07, 2009 08:53 AM
Posted Tue Jul 07, 2009 11:10 AM
Mmm mmm mmm, the holy grail indeed... I did search for one just like that for a while... they're hard to come by, but I found one. This guy practiced meditation, yoga and tantric sex, which apparently help a lot to achieve that state. Unfortunately, he was into having sex in the car, and that didn't sound too appealing at winter temperatures, so I had to pass.