Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 05:42 PM
I live in North America and have had an arranged marriage to a foreigner. I am very happy with the arrangement etc etc, no issues there. I am currently/anxiously waiting for my wife to arrive. Here's the issue: at the outset we will be living at my family's home. As I'm a virgin, I'm not sure how I can make sure that we get the privacy that newlyweds need. How much sound will there be? Any tips (other than playing loud music) on how to control what sounds escape - for example, insulating walls?
As always, other virgin/sex tips are welcome! Thanks!
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 05:43 PM
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 05:48 PM
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 05:51 PM
If I said much else, it'd be stereotyping and I try to avoid that. Good luck!
Posted Mon Jul 06, 2009 06:28 PM
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Posted Tue Jul 07, 2009 11:39 AM
Then you have the squishy sound that's made when she gets really turned on and you are thrusting inside of her. Just use your comforter draped over the two of you to muffle the sound.
Turn the TV on for some background noise as well. Not very loud, just enough to provide some diversion from the heavier breathing and a possible uncontrolled moan that might happen. Also, don't forget about the sex smell. Airing the room out while using some Fabreeze will help keep your activities out of sight.
Hopefully you can get your own place soon. Having to keep the volume down doesn't compare to going all out without worries of getting caught.
Posted Wed Jul 08, 2009 10:26 PM
ok, so i have another strange issue. i have practiced putting on a condom, but have a lot of difficulty getting it to roll all the way down. it seems really tight, but i don't think i'm of above average thickness. do first timers have troubles getting a condom on, or is this just me? any suggestions?
Posted Thu Jul 09, 2009 02:23 AM
I once bought a pack of durex. They were extremely tight. We called them the guillotine condoms cause it felt like they were going to cut your dick off once you put them on. Granted it's good to have a nice snug fit since you don't want it coming off, but some of them are just too tight. After my ex and I went through those , we tried a box of Trojan ribbed for fun. Ribs didn't do anything, but the fit was much better. Also you can try the Magnums as they are made to accommodate the larger sized guy. Maybe buy a few different brands and types to figure out what works best for you.
Putting them on in the beginning are a pain in the ass. After awhile it becomes second nature. Don't forget to tug on them once installed to allow the cum to collect. The more education and practice that you have, the better you'll be once the time happens that you need to use them. Every box comes with a folded pamphlet of information for proper use of the product. Something they don't tell you is that the condoms seem to make the girl dry up faster if you're into long sessions more so than without using condoms. You can get a water based lube that is safe for latex to make you both more comfortable. With that being said I always like to start off with a spermicidal lubricant type condom. Dry latex feels horrible, and also increases the risk of tear with the added friction.
Also remember that you lady is a virgin. She's going to be tighter and probably tense/scared of the situation. You should do your best to figure out who she is and take it slow. Taking the time to learn what makes both of you turned on and fulfilled will have a huge pay-off in the end as you both can become great lovers to one another. I've ranted long enough. Good luck.
Posted Thu Jul 09, 2009 02:45 AM
The hardest thing about having to be quiet is.... Having to be quiet...!
Shhhhh.... *giggle* ....
"I'm trying...!!!" ... *giggle*.. "Come on...Move...!!!"..
"Shhh....Shut Up.. they'll hear...!!!" ...*giggle*...*giggle*...*giggle*
"Oh my God...! listen...!!"...
"Can they hear you reckon..?"
"Oh.!...Who cares..!!! Just Move..!!!"...*giggle*...*giggle*...*giggle*
Posted Thu Jul 09, 2009 12:01 PM
i actually dont mind the condom to be a little tight, but if its too tight it can break if you are going fast and hard.
every condom brand and type is different. if you look online you can see the sizes in diameter and length. the length doesn't matter because you just dont have to roll it down all the way if its too long. (obviously)
as for sound, i say WHO CARES! let them hear.. whatever. if you are married it shouldn't have to be a secret, you are a strong-willed person staying a virgin until you are married.
but yes, the TV on and just go under the covers. take it slow, you will perform better, and make less noise. don't be nervous, be confident because she will likely be nervous too.
Posted Thu Jul 09, 2009 05:56 PM
Ok, how about this question. Should I put a towel or something on the sheets so they don't soaked with sex juices? Do people normally shower after sex? Cuz it's going to be a dead give away if every night I am showering at 10pm... then 11pm... then 12pm... and so on