First time for both of us need advice
Posted Tue Jul 14, 2009 03:00 AM
However I've never fingered her, and she does not do it herself. This is hir 1st time ever and I am worried about couple of things.
1) She's a small girl Only about 5'3....I'm 6'3 and above average. I've read a lot, and I'm worried about her having a painful 1st experience. I'm also pretty worried about it just not going in at all. Like I said she is a tiny girl...and i've rubbed her down there and there isn't much there at all. Seeing that she's never masturbated on her own, and doesn't want me to go down on her BEFORE sex, I'm not sure how this is going to work out.
2) She is pretty worried about it. She says she is comfortable with me and wants to have sex but it worried about pain and bleeding and not being good at it. This worried me, because since she doesn't want much foreplay (Doesn't like going down on each other) and with worries on top of that...she won't be fully arroused. And that will make it even worse
On top of everything I am worried about premature ejaculation. I don't last that long when I am having some time alone. I've actually had orgasm with her before without any kind of sex...just touching kissing and rubbing. But then again, she's gets to an orgasm fast and easy as well.
I've read a lot and I know it doesn't have to be bad, just because it's the 1st time. I don't care much about myself, I just want to make it into a good experience for her. I really think if I go down on her beforehand, it will make things a lot easier for her. But I can't get her to even think about it. She says she's more comfortable with sex right now, and will think about that later. I just want her to have a good time, and not experience as much pain. I don't want to be the only one recieving all the pleasure out of it.
Any advice is welcome.
Posted Tue Jul 14, 2009 09:18 AM
Posted Tue Jul 14, 2009 01:27 PM
Does she like porn? maybe pick a porn that the two of you will like and watch it before hand, let things get hot and heavy like they have been getting, kissing, rubbing, grinding on each other-- then when the clothes are off just take it slow. I second the idea to buy some KY just in case her own juices are not enough. Be slow and gentle with her and I wish you the best of luck.
Posted Tue Jul 14, 2009 01:34 PM
Posted Wed Jul 15, 2009 02:42 PM
My girl has a very small vagina (a trait that actually runs in her family) which makes for incredible sex now, but caused both of us a lot of pain when we first started. She bled a lot the first time and several times afterwards, it wasn't an alarming amount and it didn't make the experience any less amazing (you are having sex for the first time after all). Mind you, it is much better now that she is a bit broken in, doesn't bleed and can orgasam.
Don't sweat yourself about it, you'll both survive! You are human after all and your bodies are designed for this kind of thing. Take it slow and listen to what she says (more, less, slower, softer, ect). I would also reccomend using lubricate in she doesn't get very wet, it will help.
Posted Wed Jul 15, 2009 04:00 PM
Buy lots of lube.....get a running start and POW! Tell her the pain will be over soon.
Just kidding. Lot of lube, lots of forplay, and be gentle. Go at her speed and be patient. It will be fine.
Posted Wed Jul 15, 2009 04:39 PM
Posted Thu Jul 16, 2009 02:09 AM
We will be using a condom so that should make things easier.
So basically just lots of foreplay and take it really slow not hoping for much out of our 1st time?
What if she's having too much pain when I penetrate? Should I just keep going? Because my best friend had a problem where him and his GF tried it twice when they were a lot younger and it didn't work out as his penis would simply not go in?
I know babys can make it out of there, but still...I guess I am just too worried.
Posted Thu Jul 16, 2009 06:37 AM
comfort and relaxation are going to be key. dont be shy, she'll be much more comfortable if you can 'man up' and take control. you don't need to relax or be comfortable, your dick will be hard regardless lmao, but she'll need some attention before hand.
Posted Thu Jul 16, 2009 07:55 AM
Posted Thu Jul 16, 2009 09:51 AM
Be gentle, go slow, ur not going to be superman or she's not going to be superwoman in bed the first time, and don't do it on the carpet like me the first time.. Other than that it's all been mentioned.. have fun!
Posted Fri Jul 17, 2009 02:15 AM
Posted Sat Jul 18, 2009 11:49 PM
Also, if the first time isn't great, keep trying! It'll get better as you have more sex.
Posted Mon Jul 20, 2009 04:32 PM
Posted Mon Jul 20, 2009 09:14 PM
Couple days ago I fingered her with 1 and then 2 fingers. She was pretty wet. She had an orgasm it was wonderful. During that time I wanted to fuck her SO bad but it couldn't happen then as we didn't have much time really.
So today we had like 6 hours to spend alone....first hour and a half or so we spent kissing rubbing and me eventually fingering her....I was hard, but then it went away after about 20 minutes...she was expecting me to do it, but I was not even close to being hard...so we got dressed ate and had a drink (Non-alcoholic) and after that went back to it...
So this time we start warming up, I get hard, reach for the condom and my mom starts calling me...ever minute of so
Finally had to pick up and spent 20 minutes yelling at each other.
Of course by the time I hung up I was not hard at all and I couldn't get it back up for next hour or so...we were making out and I kept fingering her....I know she had a blast she had 3-4 orgasms for sure.
It just felt so bad when she kept saying "I want it" and "Do it right now" after I hung up with my mom. I just couldn't get it back up.
IDK what was wrong with me today.....I never have that problem when I'm watching porn....i sometimes even get hard when we kiss....and she really turns me on, I think she's gorgeous and she has an amazing body...
I need advice on how to fix this... next time we try it, I have to be able to get hard and stay hard the whole time...
And on top of everything when I was soft she kept rubbing on me and I kinda came a bit...it wasn't an precum....it was an actual orgasm that I kinda held back....it just was meant to happen after 4 hours of everything that happen....
Posted Mon Jul 20, 2009 09:45 PM
Posted Mon Jul 20, 2009 09:51 PM
I'm just pissed at myself that after all this waiting, we finally got to it, and I couldn't even get hard which is a problem I've never had...I would always be hard when we make out....and when it came time to actual sex it just didn't work....and on top of that I'm certain I have premature problem as well.
So basically while I was worried about her, it's me that I'm worried about now...she didn't have any problems at all so far...she took fingering very well and actually had orgasms. I noticed over last week how every time I end up fingering her it's easier for her.... I don't think she's gonna have a problem at ALL next time, but I'm worried about myself.
Posted Mon Jul 20, 2009 10:15 PM
while i dont have the problem of getting it up its not always as hard as it should be, and i thought i would have a premature ejaculation problem too, but when we finally did it (without being drunk) it lasted over two hours, so you never know, maybe get viagra or something, but i dont know, im just as new to this as you,
Posted Thu Jul 23, 2009 03:32 AM
Once again i was hard when we were making out and undressing then I just went soft....she waited for forever, actually let me do an oral on her, and then gave me a handjob...that worked, and then I put a condom on, and by the time I rolled it down and got into the position i wasn't hard enough to get into her really tight vagina. And then it just went soft again.
I don't know what to do. I don't have that problem usually...It's so easy for me to get an erection usually...I can just think of her, and a couple strokes...and I'm hard as a rock. It's so easy for me to masturbate I don't even need porn. And when it comes to actual sex, I can't get it up....what the hell?
Posted Thu Jul 23, 2009 04:06 AM