man law question: buddys girl ?women.. i want ur advice too
Posted Sun Jul 26, 2009 03:02 AM
With that said, my dilema is that a friend of mine was bringing his friend to hang out with the guys for car stuff. Well he was dating a girl for 2 years then he broke up with her saying she was a lesbian and other things just to start the fight. They have now been split up for 6 months and she wants her and I to date. She is gorgeous and realy down to earth, just a
Real good human being. Well my friends found out about this and they were all against this because they say that he thought of me as aclose friend. So my train of thought is that to me he was just afriend's buddy. So do u people think I'm in the wrong for wanting to date this girl....fyi this girl is wifey material.
P.s. since they split up in dec, he hasn't tried getting back with her.
Posted Sun Jul 26, 2009 03:07 AM
Posted Sun Jul 26, 2009 03:20 AM
There's your answer. If it's going to mess everything up there, then why go through with it? If it was me, I wouldn't risk it. Sure, there have been ex's of friends that I wouldn't have minded dating in the past if the situation was different, but the fact of the matter is she's a friend's ex...and to me, there's a moral principle there that doesn't get messed with...but that's just my opinion.
Posted Sun Jul 26, 2009 03:49 AM
When they split up. Now they all have someone so now there saying they rather
Me not date her.
I have people I know that are friends and others are people that u talk to cause thy are there in the same place. That's how this guy used to be around. Cause he was friends with one of my friends so to me he was always just someone who was around but not a close friend. Hell he actualy hasn't been around us since they split up last december. He came around once for 2 min to tell my friend that they were hiring if he was looking for work.
Posted Sun Jul 26, 2009 08:27 AM
Sounds like fair game to me, especially if he broke up with her
Posted Sun Jul 26, 2009 10:31 AM
But since you said "she may be wifey material", that makes me think it might be worth the friction....? But regardless, if your going to make that jump, you should speak to your friend, who is the friend of the "ex", and tell him what that you thought about it for a long time, and you really dont want him to be mad at you, but your really feeling like you have to give it a shot. Tell him that you respect his situation with his guy friend, so you will speak with him and respectfully tell him about your intent.
Usually a guy will be pissed that anyone is fucking his ex if he still has any feelings for her. But we also cannot help but to respect those who go out of their way to respect us first. Yeah, you might run the chance of getting in a scrap if the conversation goes bad, but atleast you will always be able to say you "tried to take the high road" by talking to him about it, and all your other guy friends on the side will have to agree.
And hey, what "potential wifey material" is not worth getting in a little scrap over?
Posted Sun Jul 26, 2009 11:27 AM
Posted Sun Jul 26, 2009 11:32 AM
It would be hands off if she left him, but it sounds like he made a dick move.
I say go for it.
Posted Sun Jul 26, 2009 11:34 PM
only thing worse than a friends EX is a friends current.........yet, i have a friend that cant seem to get that through his thick head. yes, the guy did take away from me one really horrid bitch, and he got fucked over bad...by his friend in fact, which makes even funnier. but thats besides the point.
Posted Mon Jul 27, 2009 07:42 AM
If he is really over her, than he won't care.
Posted Mon Jul 27, 2009 10:06 AM
I don't think this is about your guy friend, or your friend's buddy, or the girl... it's more about you taking the responsibility of making your own decisions and accepting the consequences.