We have issues
Posted Mon Jul 27, 2009 12:17 PM
I LOVE sex, its not all about the climaxing for me I just love being intimate and sharing each others bodies and desires. But he just isnt interested. I can dress sexily, start stroking up his leg, kissing his neck and so on and so forth with the only reaction being a sigh or a tut. Queue me getting very annoyed and sulking for the best part of the evening.
This isnt the only problem. We had agreed we'd like to move out, so he promised me he is going to start saving. He hasnt. My view is if you cant keep promises dont bother making them. Simple.
Things are slowly getting worse between us. Like we will meet up and he wont even say hello and then wont talk to me without me initiating the conversation. Im getting very pissed off, to the stage where i may have met up with a friend of his and kissed him. Dont get me wrong, im not a cheater and have told this friend i cant see him and i dont wish to talk to him until me and my boyfriend have resolved our issues.
Do I try and resolve things with my boyfriend or just accept we have run our course? The idea of being single at my age is becoming more and more appealing.
Posted Mon Jul 27, 2009 12:37 PM
Does he have a valid reason not to be saving? Maybe he's not earning enough or had some big bills to pay, again have you talked to him?
You're making the right choice about his friend, best to leave that until you can resolve this but if you've talked to him and nothing has really changed and he can't give you valid answers maybe it is time to move on.
Posted Mon Jul 27, 2009 12:54 PM
Posted Mon Jul 27, 2009 12:59 PM
I know how tough being self employed is, I have been for years and just had to close my company down
Posted Mon Jul 27, 2009 01:16 PM
I bet if you pressured him to be more attentive he would be, but it wouldn't last. You would just be in a cycle, and that's not how relationships should work.
I think you know the answer, deep down its just facing it.
You're young, theres 3 billion guys out there, I'm sure AT LEAST ONE is going to be better than Mr. Current.
From what you've said, you're not that bothered by being single, this is a good position to be in. There are women that just stay in relationships because they're scared of being single.
Posted Tue Jul 28, 2009 08:59 AM
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Posted Tue Jul 28, 2009 02:12 PM
Posted Tue Jul 28, 2009 02:37 PM
I highly doubt he is getting it somewhere else...trust me on that one!
And yes my avatar is me. We did have sex last night which was a nice surprise, i had succumed to the fact i wasnt going to be getting any in a while (it had been 2months!)
I may see how it goes this week, if nothing seems to have changed then its gotta be the end of the road hasnt it..?
Oh and to those who say I shouldnt have cheated and should end it. What would you do faced with someone that showed alot of affection for you when you werent gettin any? Admittedly id be pissed if it were him who had kissed someone else but knowing i'd been less than caring for the past few months i'd be shocked if they hadnt tbh...
Posted Tue Jul 28, 2009 10:49 PM
I agree it sounds like he hasn't been treating you right, but it's best to take care of one relationship at a time