talking to first love again.. but ive sleept with her cousin
Posted Wed Aug 05, 2009 02:53 AM
I'm currently talking to my first love again. It actually seems like the timing couldn't be better. She is single and I'm single. There are two issues to overcome here and i need everyones advice.
The first issue is that she is 8 hours away and has her life set up, so if anything is going to happen its gonna be me packin up and movin with her. How to make this happen and restart the fire that was there before being 8 hours away..
The second issue is that i haven't seen this girl in about 8 years. About 2 years ago.. I was seeing her cousin but just for sex.. no strings deal..knowing that I would never have a chance with my first love ever again. Should I tell this girl about me and her cousin or just leave it and roll the dice. There not that close and well its been 2 years and the cousin hasn't told her.. what would give me a better chance of keeping this on track.
Posted Wed Aug 05, 2009 03:19 AM
Posted Wed Aug 05, 2009 12:02 PM
Posted Wed Aug 05, 2009 12:46 PM
Posted Wed Aug 05, 2009 12:48 PM
i'd be honest if she asks obviously. but if you say they arent that close, dont bring it up. but i mean is that chick gonna run up to you at a family get together and give u a kiss and say 'omg its been so long since ive seen you'.
Posted Wed Aug 05, 2009 02:17 PM
how do you think she is going to feel knowing that you can't be upfront about stuff like that? she's going to wonder what else you're hiding, and ultimately the bond of trust will be greatly affected
might as well get it in the open now before too many grounds are established
put yourself in her shoes. wouldn't you want to know if she slept with your cousin? how would you feel?
Posted Wed Aug 05, 2009 02:24 PM
Good point. I couldn't blame her either.
Posted Wed Aug 05, 2009 06:17 PM
8 hours? Why not get your life together first?
Posted Thu Aug 06, 2009 10:28 AM
If she freaks out- better now than later if you uproot your whole life to move closer to her- as you will save yourself all the trouble and pain. And also it will set you up as "the honest one" by comming out and letting her know. Not many better ways to show someone respect than to tell them the truth regarding something they know is very difficult for you.