Posted Tue Aug 11, 2009 03:11 PM
New to.. Well a quite a few things actually.
Interested in anal at the moment though.
Kind of want to try, and my man has no problem doing it as he has before, but I'm a little squeamish still.
Mainly... "The mess".
I have it in my head that it would be nasty/gross/messy. And that's not my thing.
I know you could use an enema beforehand, but I've never used one of those, so again, a little odd to think about. (Definitely don't like the thought of buying one from some store)
Just looking for some input and personal experiences I guess.
Posted Tue Aug 11, 2009 03:27 PM
Posted Tue Aug 11, 2009 03:35 PM
Number one, go to the bathroom and make sure that the poop is out before you consider doing anal tonight. It's usually best if you poop a couple hours before you plan on having sex to make sure there is nothing left up there.
Number two, shower! This is a very important step and can be practiced during normal sex. Clean yourself with warm, soapy water to ensure that the area is clean and that there are no remnants from earlier.
Number three, get comfortable. If you're planning anal, it's probably best if you try it by yourself the first time. Get some lube and slowly work on penetrating your ass with it. Go slow and go easy. You have two sphincters, interior and exterior. You can control the exterior one -- try it now. The interior one however is controlled involuntarily so you need to be patient and wait for it to adapt to the intrusion of your finger. Keep in mind that your ass is designed for purging and not for entry.
It will take a couple of sessions before you can try to take a penis in your ass. Try to get yourself up to 3-4 fingers, and if you have any toys, try to use those as well. You want to get your anus as used to the feeling as you possibly can to reduce any sort of pain or unwanted results. Over time you will become more accustomed to it and it will become a very pleasurable occurrence for you both.
My girlfriend is also friends with a gay man who suggested that the best way to do anal sex (especially the first time) is to lie on your stomach and completely relax. Make sure that he lubes up your anus a lot, as well as his penis. Lube doesn't cost that much and you want to make this as easy on yourself as you can.
Anal is an enjoyable thing, don't over think it and you'll do fine! I hope this helps.
Posted Tue Aug 11, 2009 03:46 PM
Posted Tue Aug 11, 2009 06:16 PM
I enjoyed a lot and it was only painful in the begining. Well the size of his penis matters.The tjicker , the more pain you will have. But as a beginner the best way to start up is to have him finger you in there, with one finger first then two. That way the lottle hole will enlarge. Also use gel or lotion.
You have to be very relax, don't contract your butt muscle. Lie on your stomack instead of doggy style
Posted Tue Aug 11, 2009 08:52 PM
i think the two most important things are proper lubrication and relaxation. i really cannot stress the lube thing enough. use plenty of lube. seriously, when you think you've got enough-- use more. you can't use too much and trust me, you don't wanna use too little. and just make sure you're relaxed. if you aren't feeling it, you aren't gonna have a good experience.
Posted Tue Aug 11, 2009 10:53 PM
Posted Wed Aug 12, 2009 05:52 AM
Anal doesn't have to be messy. Buy a Fleet Enema in the drugstore. Empty the laxative solution-refill with lukewarm water-use half of the water-expel-use the other half-expel and then shower. You will be squeaky clean.
Posted Wed Aug 12, 2009 07:33 AM
It wasnt always messy.. I just dont like anal.. And the bf knows that so he doesnt even ask for it any more.. My bf is 9 1/2 inches, so believe me its not pleasant so I just avoid anal.
Posted Wed Aug 12, 2009 08:23 AM
lol, it does, a little more and he would have two little Teddys
Posted Wed Aug 12, 2009 08:25 AM
Ted Flirt said:
.. What can I say.. I like it .
Posted Wed Aug 12, 2009 08:30 AM
that's cool, I have no issues either
Posted Wed Aug 12, 2009 09:59 AM
Thankfully my man knows me well enough to know how embarrassed I can get with new things. (He's older and a BIT more experienced, though I'm no slouch myself. Just haven't had the most adventurous partners before.)
He was easy with me, a bit too much though. XD
Held back on both force and going all the way in.
But not a bad first time!
Condom, lots of lube, and a patient/caring partner. Worked for me!
Now to prod him to actual get in there instead of treating me like porcelain.
Can't complain too much though, he said he didn't want to make the first experience with it painful, hence him being easy.
MUCH nicer than some guys I've heard about. >_<
Posted Wed Aug 12, 2009 11:09 AM
i usually don't use a condom for anal though, its the only time i can have sex without a condom so why would i use one. (but i would with a random person)
glad you had a good experience. not my cup of tea, too tight, i dont like. we've done it so many times too and niether of us like it but we keep trying, thinking maybe we will like it more. pussy is just so much more inviting