Posted Fri Aug 14, 2009 10:47 AM
I think this issue could be to do with stress, as I really like her and am anxious about satsifying her. But that seems a bit illogical to me, as I have made her come in other ways, so don't really feel under that much pressure to perform. I have had sex with two other girls, one who I was in a relationship with, but who, if I am frank, I probably wasn't as keen on as I should have been, and the other was a bit of a one-night mistake. On both of these occasions, I had no trouble getting and maintaining an erection. However, there was another time, with someone I really liked, where maintaining an erection was a problem. We had to give up eventually, and this person didn't make me feel great about the issue.
I am wondering what to do about this. I have seen these AMI consultation clinics being advertised a lot in posters, which help people with erectile dysfunction as well as premature ejaculation. But, I don't want to pay over the odds for a scam. Again, the same goes for natural herbal pills. I have seen them advertised. But how genuine are they? I would rather avoid it if possible. Was hoping somebody may know of some natural ways of improving my erection strength.
PS. I am fit and active, do sport everyday and generally get my 5 fruit and veg a day, so I don't think it is a lifestyle issue.
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Posted Fri Aug 14, 2009 02:16 PM
Posted Fri Aug 14, 2009 02:32 PM
Let me tell you, I use to have similar problems. I just turned 47 and while I have no problem getting hard, sometimes I was having trouble finishing and giving real pleasure to my wife. A lot of times she had to finish herself and I'd feel real bad. I felt the same way as you did about the pills. In frustration I ordered a product called 'Red Hot Sex for Him', I know with a name like that it must be a joke. When it arrived, I took it as directed, one pill at least an hour before and boy, I have to tell you, I got VERY HARD and was able to maintain my erection for a bit over an hour and my wife was very pleased, it was the first time in quite a while that she had 2 orgasms and when I came, it was like an explosion. Quite amazing. After letting me lie there for a bit, my wife reached around and grabbed my cock and in a minute I was very hard again and she took full advantage of it.
In my opinion, some of these pills do work and work very well. I went from usually not being able to fully please my wife, to us fucking like school kids.
They also make a 'Red Hot Sex for Her' that when my wife takes it, WATCH OUT! We recently had a marathon 8 hour session that left us both raw but very happy.
For me this pill were a godsend. I take one every 3 days and I'm always ready. It's not like I walk around with an erection, I only get hard when me and my wife get down to business, which happily is everyday.
If you want to try them, go to www.redhotbodyproducts.com, right now you can even get a sample pack with one male pill and two female pills.
Whatever you do, I hope you find a solution.
Posted Fri Aug 14, 2009 02:46 PM
First of all: relax, happens to everyone
2) Are you drinking before sex? Alcohol can be great for getting you in the mood, but can also cause you to go soft, especially wine.
3) talk during sex? or are you just quietly humping? Communicate !! it increases intimacy.
4) yes there are chemicals that work, but it's sounds like you are young and it's unlikely that you have a "blood-flow" issue. Thats for us old guys!!
Posted Fri Aug 14, 2009 04:06 PM
Don't let your mind wander while you're having sex and don't worry about disappointing. You've already made her cum before, so enjoy the sensation of sex.
Posted Fri Aug 14, 2009 04:59 PM
At first view with the title I was thinking: "See a dr." but with the details you provided I agree with you it's most likely all mental.
That can either be the easiest or the most difficult erectile dysfunction to face.
I don't have a degree to answer 100% sure but I think the most important thing to do in this case would be talk with the girl when you are not having or not about to have sex. Keep watching tv and only bring it up every once in a while to not make either of you uncomfortable (that is a proven means for discussing a somewhat difficult topic, I'm not just blowing smoke).
You must remember when you talk to her go into it with neither of you to blame. Joke like: "I wonder what it will take me to get hard." but be sure it comes across as a full joke and not you whining for pity. Communication is essential in sexual realations whether done with pheremones, looks or words.
Be confident. She's still trying even though things haven't slid into the groove (pun) so talking to her not only reassures her that it isn't her fault, which she may be harboring somewhere in her mind, it lets her know you want to fix the problem for HER benefit.
By the end I think it will be a game of "Build an Erection" that will have you both so turned on you'll naturally relax and be so deep in her she'll forget her name.
I know you say some of your stress is because you like her and want to impress her, those are the Pimpingest topics to discuss to get any girl to be with you.
Talk everything regarding this issue out. I would leave out the parts about your jimmy working for the other girls though.
Posted Fri Aug 14, 2009 06:58 PM
I think the general message is that I know the answer already. I think I was over-worrying earlier. Due to the nature of our relationship, I don't see her for a few weeks at a time, apart from term time when we are both at Uni. I should state that the time before last we did have sex and I was able to come. Guess because of the fact that it is often a while until we see eachother again, I want it to be perfect eachtime. I think that adds to the stress and hinders me. I guess that is quite an easy issue to raise with her actually...
And thanks bodysolenic for your words. I can see where you may be coming from. But when we are doing oral etc I find it hard to see how we could be more compatible...everything is really good in that department, so I won't worry about that...not for now at least!